Because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, nearly half of the couples who divorced were due to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. 55% of young wives said they didn't get along well with their mother-in-law, and 41% of husbands thought there were problems with their mother-in-law.It's easy to understand that before having a child, even the strongest feelings will be washed away by the trivialities of life, and even the most patient patience will be exhausted in arguments. The beautiful memories have become a luxury of memory, the former husband who was a good man has become a lazy ghost, and the gentle mother-in-law has become a chatty weirdo, and I don't have the enthusiasm of the past anymore.
Because of work needs, the Snow family moved from Chongqing to Xi'an, but the contradiction began. The mother-in-law blamed Snow for occasionally video chatting with her mother, sometimes chatting for a long time and forgetting the time, and there was a lot of nagging and complaints.I often see people have so many things to talk about.
Snow complained that she didn't like the climate in the north, and the mother-in-law immediately imagined Snow's delicate personality. In Snow's view, the mother-in-law was like an actor, and she just wanted to chat with her mother, but she was also eavesdropping, so she pretended to be sick and interrupted the video.Snow's husband is a filial man, believing that the mother-in-law was originally supposed to enjoy a good life in her hometown, but came to help her take care of her children, so she shouldn't be bothered, and she should respect her elders. Snow was already very polite, except for letting the mother-in-law take care of the children, she did everything herself, and the other party still didn't satisfy her.Besides the mother-in-law's surveillance, she occasionally bought a piece of clothing for herself, and the mother-in-law asked how much it cost, ‘Women have to be thrifty, big cities have expensive things, there's no need to buy them.’ ‘Little Li will be back today, your cooking is not tasty, if you have time, learn more.’
‘Son, don’t look at Snow not doing housework or taking care of her children, you should tell her she’s lazy.’
The two people who had a deep relationship because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were increasingly strained.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are two strangers, and they are connected because of the husband. It’s important for the man to mediate between them.
If the husband is considerate of his wife, there will be fewer family conflicts.Knowing how to think from the other's perspective and respect his wife's men will not make the family relationship worse.
Of course, as a wife, we also need to use various methods to protect our interests. When our private space is gone, we should sit down and talk to our husbands and explain our position.If your man will compromise or ignore you, staying away from him is the best way. Besides the mother-in-law's involvement in our small family, we should also take care of ourselves and our families, and it's wise to take care of ourselves and our families.
1. Don't express opinions when the husband's family borrows money.
It's the husband's parents who make the decision when the husband's family borrows money from relatives.
If the mother-in-law asks you to borrow money from relatives, you should find a reason to refuse. You don’t need to get angry with the relatives, it’s easy to offend people.2. When the husband and wife have a conflict, don’t get involved. No matter how much the mother-in-law cares for you, you must remember that the mother-in-law and your mother are different, and some things cannot be involved.
Smart people know how to manage their own families well!
Let them handle their own affairs, and don't make yourself uncomfortable.3. Don’t get involved in the affairs of the husband's brothers and sisters.
Although there are many single children now, there are still not a few people with brothers and sisters.
Getting married is not marrying one person, but marrying a family.
The husband loves you, but it doesn’t mean the other brothers and sisters in the family like you.
Don’t make things difficult for yourself in any situation, because if you say one word, you’ll cause a big conflict. It’s hard for the husband to stand in the middle.Instead of making things difficult for yourself, it's better to not get involved.
Take care of yourself and your family, and that's wise.
