Not Being Reckless (Not Being Impulsive)

Just like Murakami said, getting old is a sudden thing, being timid is also.

You might remember when you were a hot-blooded youth, but one day you suddenly started to pay attention to health and wellness, started to be less irritable, started to face everything with a smile. It wasn't long before you became timid without realizing it.

What's more surprising is that when you realize you've become so timid, you still remain calm, pour a cup of tea in a thermos, and murmur to yourself, 'It can be like this.'

Ten years ago, the night before I left my hometown, my long-time friends came to see me off.,

Some of them shouted to me to 'drink more wine, let's go out and have fun, who knows where we'll meet again,'

Some of them took my hand and said, 'Where there are friends, there is heaven, even if we are far apart, we are still friends.'

Some of them hugged my shoulders and sang, 'Longting outside, ancient road beside, green grass stretches endlessly.'

Back then, I felt like I had traveled back to the Tang Dynasty, surrounded by Li Bai, Du Fu, and Bai Juyi, all full of passion and unrestrained spirit.,

Back then, wine was never enough, and we often overheard a scolding: 'Why don't you refill my cup?'

Back then, a youth gathering had to last from 4 pm to midnight, what was most nostalgic was when I vomited after throwing up in the toilet at midnight.,

These scenes disappeared completely when I returned to my hometown and had a reunion with my friends last year.,

The venue for the reunion shifted from a barbecue stall to a friend's home, and they said it was because the house was warmer. Of course, the real reason was that there was a bed and a sofa, and anyone could lie down when they were tired.,

Back then, the people who told me to 'drink more wine' would greet me with a friendly reminder before sitting down, but today, after eating a head of soymilk, they were still hesitant.,

The other person might have thought his words were too harsh, and he apologized to the young man in the car, and the two of them started chatting. Later, that boy got a credit card from the young man, and he also recommended all his friends to the young man.,

The young man was delighted and told me that if I had gotten angry, we probably would have had a fight in the car, and we wouldn't have talked about getting a credit card.,

Compared to being scolded, it's more important to get a month-end bonus.,

In the middle age world, being scolded is nothing compared to achieving a month-end bonus.,

Middle-aged people don't use their courage to pursue reckless actions, but to resist the pressure of life.,

Middle-aged people understand that being timid is a kind of wisdom, a kind of understanding how to avoid risks and maintain a stable life.,

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Remember a snowy night many years ago.,

One of the guys shouted at the dormitory building entrance, and dozens of figures of various heights and plumpness rushed into the snow,

As the sound of 'Oh my God' and 'Mom, what a beautiful snow' echoed in the snowy night, the biggest battle of my high school years officially started.,

In young people's world, it's easy to quarrel, but it's rare to have patience to explain things.,

That battle started because of a whistle, a whistle that was deemed provocative.,

Now sometimes I think about those past times, I think I was so silly, but I wouldn't say it, because no one hasn't been young once, and it's a good excuse.,

It's not that you don't understand what you've changed your mindset to, it's just that you're protecting your youthful pride.,

A colleague, Mr. Da Xi, told me a story one morning when he was squeezed on the subway.,

He was stepped on by a young girl, and instinctively said 'Oh my God,' The girl's boyfriend didn't agree, and said, 'Is it really that painful?'

Mr. Da Xi immediately felt a little unhappy, no matter how painful or not, it couldn't be said like that, but he still smiled and said, 'It's okay, it's okay.'

The girl's boyfriend probably thought his words were too harsh, and he apologized to the young man in the car, and the two of them started talking. Later, that boy got a credit card from the young man, and he also recommended all his friends to the young man.,

Mr. Da Xi was delighted and told me that if I had gotten angry, we probably would have had a fight in the car, and we wouldn't have talked about getting a credit card.,

Compared to being scolded, it's more important to get a month-end bonus.,

In the middle age world, being scolded is nothing compared to achieving a month-end bonus.,

Middle-aged people don't use their courage to pursue reckless actions, but to resist the pressure of life.,

Middle-aged people understand that being timid is a kind of wisdom, a kind of understanding how to avoid risks and maintain a stable life.,

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A famous person once said: 'Breaking home is worth ten thousand guan.'

Yes, this famous person is my mother.,

Once, my mother came to visit me, she carried a lot of things with her.,

But I found that there was also a shoe box in the bag.,

I curiously opened it, and found a pair of football shoes made by Gold Wing, I asked my mother what these shoes were for.,

My mother said these were the football shoes you wore when you played football, they were good, you can give them to your grandson to wear.,

A week later, I saw the shoes in the shoe cabinet again, I got angry with my mother, how could you bring our garbage back.,

My mother lowered her head like someone who had done something wrong, and said, 'I didn't know.'

When I was young, I didn't know how to show respect to my parents, I only thought that sincerely doing good things for my parents was enough, but later I realized that it wasn't that simple.,

After my father died, my mother also got cancer.,

After the surgery, she recovered well, but she couldn't live alone.,

I flew back to my hometown to pick her up and take her to live with me, when I was tidying up, I found that she was unwilling to let go of things, so I helped her pack a lot of things, she didn't want to throw away the things I gave her, and in the end, she packed two large travel suitcases and many things that didn't fit.,

I felt that my mother was very happy, on the one hand, because the things hadn't been thrown away, on the other hand, perhaps she felt that she was still respected.,

When I was middle-aged, I realized that respect is not just about being polite, it's about respecting one's parents.,

Regardless of what they do that's not appropriate, don't scold or get angry, just solve it quietly.,

Middle-aged people don't use their courage to pursue reckless actions, but to resist the pressure of life.,

Middle-aged people understand that being timid is a kind of wisdom, a kind of understanding how to avoid risks and maintain a stable life.,

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A famous person once said: 'Breaking home is worth ten thousand guan.'

Yes, this famous person is my mother.

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