In the Future, Be a Difficult Person to Anger
Written by | Ling Jiu Ge
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A few days ago, Jiu Ge saw a sentence on Zhihu:Even if you lie down and let others step on you, you're still complaining about you not being comfortable enough.”
Suddenly, I felt the sentence was very realistic.
When we were young, adults always educated us to be kind and considerate. But when we grow up, we realize not everyone is like us.
The more considerate you are, the less people will treat you as important. The more you try to be considerate, the less people will take you seriously. You're always thinking about others' feelings, and no one considers yours?
Kindness shouldn't be without teeth; otherwise, it becomes weakness. Your one-sided yielding will only make others more brazen. Your silent sacrifices will only make others more brazen. You've helped them a hundred times, but if there's ever a refusal, they'll turn their backs on you and accuse you of selfishness.
It's actually not wrong to be kind, just don't give your sincerity to the wrong people, letting them take advantage of you. Sometimes, learning to be a person who 'doesn't easily offend' can be much easier!
Previously, a very popular TV series, 'Rules of Survival', had everyone around me hooked.
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The reason is simple: the female protagonist Wei Ying Luo is a completely 'ruthless' character unlike the previous saccharine heroines.
Wei Ying Luo is decisive and sharp; she avenges herself if she's wronged or plotted against, never enduring it silently, but finding ways to retaliate.
In the drama, she has a famous line: 'I, Wei Ying Luo, have a naturally explosive temper and am not to be trifled with. Whoever dares to pester me, I have plenty of ways to deal with her!'
The best way to deal with people who are soft on one side and hard on the other is to act like Wei Ying Luo, letting everyone know you're not one to easily provoke.
Sometimes, stepping back doesn't bring you an open sky, but rather the other party's escalation. It's better to have a bottom line and a temper, so people won't look down on you and take advantage of you.
Remember, if others don't offend me, I won't offend them, but if they offend me, I'll retaliate with double the force!
In life, there's no need to live a life full of resentment, always sacrificing yourself to please others, that's exhausting.
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Even if you're perfect, there will always be someone who doesn't look on you favorably. If that's the case, why not be your truest self? It might not be perfect, but it's enough to be carefree and happy.
Let what others say pass you by, don't dwell on it. Don't try to please anyone, and don't try to cater to anyone. Just be yourself, unique and irreplaceable.
If someone is good to you, be good to them. If someone plays tricks on you, you should also play tricks on them. Don't be afraid of offending people, because some feelings are better off left unsaid.
In a relationship, the most important thing is not money or status, but a sincere heart. Those who understand mutual giving are worth cherishing; those who only want to take from you should be avoided early on.
Life is short, don't think too much, live as comfortably as you like, and live as happily as you can. Love yourself.
In the rest of your life, be a person who doesn't easily offend, without worrying about the future or regretting the past, erase everything, and treat love with ease!
