The Most Important Thing in a Marriage: Don't Compete
01I admire these two types of people:
1In your youth, a woman who shares your hardships with a man.
2When you’re wealthy, a man who provides a good life for a woman.
Time flies, and after so many years, the feelings between couples transform from the initial love into family affection, sometimes suddenly realizing why the couple seems to grow colder over time?
It’s not that feelings have faded, but rather that they’ve become accustomed to each other’s sacrifices without gratitude, both sides are accustomed to taking without giving, and they habitually choose to enjoy without returning the favor. People are naturally accustomed to things.
Especially with family members, you give a smile to a stranger, but you give your bad temper to the people you love most.
When you’re used to her working hard at home doing laundry and cooking, do you ever say ‘You’ve worked hard’ when you eat delicious food and wear clean clothes? There’s nothing to take for granted; she is your wife, not your housekeeper.
02,When you’re used to his fatigue from traveling and working hard, you always say that others earn more money outside, without realizing that he also works hard outside for you and your children to live a better life.
Your encouragement and support are his motivation to work hard; when he comes home, do you ever say ‘You’ve worked hard’? He is your husband, not your wallet.
The best marital relationship is: you know the hardships of someone working outside, and I understand the difficulty of you taking care of the children at home. Good couples understand each other, don’t think about conquering or suppressing each other, and don’t constantly criticize who is right or wrong.
Love has no right or wrong; no one is superior; no one is worthy of anyone; different responsibilities, equal status. You are what you are, and you match accordingly. The most discerning marital relationships are precisely in not considering things. Only by not considering things can you respect and love each other!
03,Arguments and banter between couples are not a problem, but a misunderstanding is. The best marital relationship requires mutual understanding, encouragement, and support.
After so many years of wind and rain, overcoming difficulties, women understand how to cherish, men understand how to be grateful. That’s a lifetime; being together this lifetime is a fate determined in previous lives. You must still support each other to go forward.
Wishing all couples a happy marriage and live together forever, all couples love and cherish each other, old age together, and when their lives end, they can say without regret: ‘I had you in my life, it was wonderful.’
Most men are like this: we women are always nagging, but as long as you hug us when we’re angry, you won’t have to nag us. You just need to understand this.
You know that if you want to comfort us, you will save a lot of trouble? We won’t argue with you about spending money or housework. If you understand it, why don’t you?Women are said to be the strongest, but they are also the most fragile. If our expectations are always met with indifference, we will be heartbroken over time.
True couples are not about opposing each other and fighting for superiority, but about understanding each other with a smile.
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