Life is Short, It's Crucial Who You're With!
A person's life is but a fleeting journey, and they will encounter both people they like and people they dislike. Some relationships are exhausting, and it's best to end them.
As you grow older, you'll understand the cruelty and harshness of time. Meeting a suitable person is already a great happiness.
It doesn't matter if someone is tall or short, fat or thin, rich or poor. What matters is whether they are right for you. Life is short, and the people you're with truly matter.
Stay away from people who drain you,
It's important to be with someone who can make you better, and even more important to be with someone who can make both of you better.
If you realize your positivity isn't strong enough to resist negativity, first learn to distance yourself from it.
Don't be with fickle people,
Everywhere you go, there are people with ulterior motives. They are usually selfish. If you give them a candy, they'll suspect it's a bomb. If you lend them an umbrella, they won't return it when your world is in turmoil.
They don't consider your feelings or thoughts; they only care about their own mood and whims.
Be with someone who is kind and filial,
A truly filial person understands responsibility, thinks deeply, appreciates and is grateful. These are the people you should value most.
Parents are the people who give you life. If you can't even be filial to your parents and disrespect them, how can you expect respect from anyone else?
Be with someone you can talk to,
Talking with someone is the foundation of a relationship. Those who can talk with you understand your interests and pleasures, and together you can find joy in life.
Be with someone who supports and encourages you,
Even seemingly unbreakable relationships eventually fade away. Relationships shouldn't be used as tools for profit. Find someone who appreciates and supports you. If you make a mistake, they understand your feelings; if you succeed, they understand your difficulties.
Be with someone who is sincere and kind,
Don't make friends with people for the sake of power, career, or wealth. True friendships have meaning. Sincere people care about your ideas and future.
Don't be with fake people,
As Bacon said:,
Fake people are despised by wise people, admired by fools, worshipped by flatterers, and enslaved by their own vanity.
Fake people are used to lying and flattering. They'll pretend to be good to you when you're good, and disappear when you need help.
Fake is poison to friendship. Being with such a person makes it easy to have nothing.
After decades of life, you'll encounter all kinds of people. Not everyone will be friendly to you out of the blue. If you find these people exhausting, it's best to avoid them.
Find people you feel comfortable with,
You've probably experienced this:,
Talking with some people is always exciting and enjoyable, even if you have many worries, you feel like you're soaring through the clouds. Time always passes in a blink. You're always eager to chat with them again.
Talking with some people is always complaining, from work to life, from friends to family, from the past to the present and future, from yourself to society and the country—it's as if their lives are never satisfactory. Your good mood will be clouded over by their complaints.
You might never want to see them again.
Be with people you feel comfortable with, and you'll feel relaxed and free, even if you're silent, you'll feel at ease,
Be with people who are different from you, and you'll have a different life,
The people you're with truly matter, and they can even change your growth trajectory,
They can determine the direction of your life and whether you succeed or fail.
Fewer friends are okay, as long as they're sincere; family doesn't need to be rich, as long as they're united; love doesn't need to be extravagant, just be caring.
