: Why We Struggle to Let Go of Things

Don't close your eyes, don't meditate quietly, just face the object squarely, which is to say, face yourself squarely. Organizing the room is organizing oneself. It's not the change of mind that drives action, but action brings about a change in the mind. As soon as you take action, the mind will follow suit. You can say that '' is a kind of meditation,

——Excerpt from Shibata Eiji's ''

We often mention '' but often find that we should be most '' – our fears, our inner lack! We often use items to enhance our sense of security, taking the item's perspective, cherishing and clinging to items, leading to a lot of unused items piling up in our homes,

Today, I'll illustrate why we can't let go of things with a few examples,

That day, I instilled the concept of '' in my friend, and then gave her a copy of ''. So she started organizing her home. She found a bundle of electrical cords that had been stored for 10 years in the storage room and discussed with her husband to get rid of it. He said, 'What if we need it later?' She firmly said, 'We've had them for ten years without using them, so if we really need them, I'll buy one for you!' He agreed,

I said to my friend: 'You're a true prodigy! Haha!' As you can see, sometimes when we can't let go of things, there's a belief system behind it: 'It might be useful in the future.' When can it be? If we can roughly know when it will be useful, we can keep it. But if we always add 'what if' in the future, it's…That is, I'm not sure when I'll need itOr, we are simply letting it go because of a need for security,

If we look at items, we can really see the strength of our inner security. For example, hoarding behaviors – some people pile up tissues and towels at home because they're afraid they won't have anything if they run out. But friends, we are no longer in the 1980s, when materials were scarce,

The downstairs small shops have everything you need, and you can order from Taobao and get it delivered two days later. Why do we need to be afraid that it won't be useful?So, starting with organization, let's shift our focus from the outside to our inner selves. When the mind is calm, we'll have more security. And negative thoughts attract negative things – the more we fear, the more likely it is that those things will occur, because our minds are constantly thinking about them. According to the law of attraction, these fears will be attracted to us,

We should start with organization to consciously eliminate the beliefs and doubts about the future that we don't need,

Why do we cling to things? One is the example I mentioned above: because of uncertainty about the future, we need to accumulate items to enhance our sense of security. The other reason is that we have experienced a period of scarcity in the past, which makes us cherish and cling to items and have a sense of acquisition,

Let's talk about our fondness for and attachment to items,

Recently, I've been encountering several cases, and I'm sharing a particularly typical one. I found that the neighbor's storage room was full of items,

People can't get in, and we can't take things out, so the things we need are bought again,So more and more things accumulate, and the couple came to my house to visit and said: 'Your apartment is much bigger than ours, you just got two new clothes' I asked them to throw away some unused things, and they said, 'The things are okay, and there's no one to give them to, it's not good to throw them away,'This may be because they're taking things from the perspective of items instead of considering whether they actually need them. I've had a similar experience myself,

Regarding the attachment to items, we can see:One, it's very practical when you first buy it

Two, it's very expensive

Three, you've thought about it for a long time before buying it,

But I said: when items come into your life, they have already realized their value. If you don't need them now, give them away, let someone who needs them use them, and continue to realize their value,

I try to give away items I don't need, and if no one wants them, I wrap them in clean bags and put them next to the trash can, and they'll naturally flow to those who need them,It's really like this!There's also an excessive possessiveness of items, which is a topic we need to face,

I know a successful 60-year-old woman, and she is the third child of her family. Her parents bought new clothes for her, and she only wore them when they were too small, which is normal in the era when materials were scarce,

But she became attached to clothes after she grew up, and she always buys the latest trendy clothes,But do you know? On the surface, she's buying the latest and most fashionable clothes for herself,

In fact, her behavior is to buy a new dress for the little girl who has never worn new clothes, and she feels that she can't satisfy her,Because she doesn't face her inner lack directly, she may always be compensating herself. This is normal for everyone, but if we can be aware of it, we can change it gradually,Through items, we can really see some of the ideas in our subconscious mind. These ideas drive our behavior. So, let's start organizing!

I hope everyone can sort out the beliefs and doubts about the future that we don't need, get rid of them promptly,Live a more relaxed, carefree, and wealthy life!