What Thinking Methods Benefit You Most?
1People get hungry and go to eat, and they get lonely and think about finding a girlfriend. They realize they have too little ink in their belly and go back to collect it. The only way for them to input is to force output.
2Arguments between lovers are just a way to break the monotony of life. You must always stand together to face problems, not as two opposing sides, one gains, one loses; one suffers, one suffers together.
3The key to speaking is ‘exchanging information,’ not ‘changing the other person.’ Talkative people aren’t necessarily clear in their speech; the essence of communication is to exchange each other’s needs in order to achieve a win-win situation.
4When listening to others speak, don’t think about what they’re saying, but think about why they’re saying it. If you overthink everything, you’ll always find opportunities when things go wrong.
5“Sorry” is a useless modal phrase, neither can it recover losses nor can it make the other person see your sincerity. Don’t think about apologizing for the wrong thing, think about the solution and solve the problem before saying ‘sorry’.
6Any behavior that can generate positive compounding effects should be chosen to persist. For example, you spent a few days writing an article and posted it on social media, but you only got a few endorsements. This doesn’t matter, what’s important is that the article will gradually be seen by more and more people over time, until one day it suddenly explodes.
7Don’t let too much ‘ceremony’ disrupt your plans. When dieting, you indulge in a barbecue, and when you stick to going to bed early, you oversleep one day. These aren’t fatal; your final goal is to develop good habits, not to prove to others that your actions are perfect.
8When reporting your work, first report the final result, and then introduce the intermediate process based on the attention points of the attendees.
9Accept others’ good intentions, and being overly polite will make others think your relationship isn’t deep. Accepting generously will make them feel like you’re one of their own. If you feel embarrassed, you can find a chance to reciprocate. For example, if I treat you to dinner today, you’ll treat me to a drink tomorrow. If you drive me home along the way today, you’ll drive me to work tomorrow.
10Remember that reading doesn’t have any utilitarian effect, so you’ll read with more fun, and it’s also easier to persevere.
11Your level of self-confidence determines the level of trust others have in you. Don’t be too modest, and don’t underestimate yourself.
12Don’t always feel like you’re exhausted from being busy; take a look at the overall situation from time to time, which can help you avoid doing a lot of useless work.
13The pyramid principle. This is actually a reverse thinking method. When we do things, we usually start from the beginning, which limits our thinking. Therefore, when doing things, it’s better to imagine the result you want first, and then reverse the steps needed to achieve that result.
14Accept first, then deny. This is a way to encourage others. Even if someone is wrong, don’t directly refute them. A standard phrase is: ‘This method does have some help, but I feel there’s a lack of perfection, and it can be modified according to XX, which might be better.’ This can help things go smoothly.
15Humans are herd animals that need a safe distance. Moderate closeness will gain the goodwill of the other person, but don’t get involved in others’ private lives excessively, and don’t develop relationships too quickly with one person.’
