Do You Have a Three-Minute Heat Wave of Things to Do? Perhaps You've Set a False Goal
One word to describe your current state: Couch potato.
The first time we worked so hard and helplessly together, we were forced to stay home, locking up our wallets, keeping our money, unable to take a step…
But, at least one thought is uncontainable.
The body sticking to the bed is not just flipped over, but also the poems in the books and the distant lands.
Just Do It is a time management book that I’ve flipped countless times, but it’s more like a guide to pull lost sheep back onto the road for me.
Instead of telling you which hour of 24 hours you should do something, this book starts with creating a life vision and gradually guides you to implement it into every day’s action, which is more enlightening.
Okay, let’s get to the main topic today.
When it comes to life vision, let’s find a piece of A4 paper and list the things we want to accomplish, then give ourselves a deadline, and then stick it in a prominent place, that’s life planning, right?
If you really think like that and do like that, you should give yourself a little encouragement, at least you have a concept of life planning. But just listing dry clauses isn’t enough.
The meaning of life planning lies in understanding your true inner wishes, you need to distinguish which goals are brain-based and which are heart-based?
First, let’s categorize the goals.
We usually categorize them by the time of completion, such as long-term goals, short-term goals, and then further divided into yearly goals, monthly goals, and daily goals.
But today, following the classification method in the book, we categorize them by the possibility of completing the goals, into true goals, false goals.
Then we can further divide life planning lists into brain goals and heart goals.
So how do we understand whether they are brain goals or heart goals? We can understand it like this: when you go to the beach and come back, your friends ask you how it felt. If you answer ‘It felt great!’ it’s a brain goal.
‘Great!’ is a very abstract word, and everyone’s understanding of ‘great!’ may be different.
But if you answer ‘The sea breeze and the sound of the engine of the ship are more pleasant than before. The sea surface with waves reflects the sunlight and emits blinding light. The salty smell enters the nostrils, and you feel a sense of being pulled back to reality’ it’s a heart goal.
Let’s talk about brain goals first.
Brain goals are goals born out of passion, such as when you see your female friend lose weight and become more beautiful, you also want to lose weight, so you sign up for a fitness class and try it a few times, then one day you miss a workout because of the rainy day, you think I really can’t persevere. In fact, you don’t really feel how fat you are, and even think it’s okay to be a little chubby.
So what are the characteristics of brain goals?
Here are three self-test methods:
1, Passion
When you are envious of others, you often have a feeling of jealousy and disappointment when you don’t have something yourself. At this time, you are likely to set a goal to catch up or surpass that invisible ‘enemy’.
Because this feeling is very short-lived, it doesn’t have a strong impact on your inner feelings, so it doesn’t choose to look at or fade away with the passage of time, so it doesn’t choose to look at or fade away with the passage of time.
2, Not hitting the pain points
As we mentioned earlier, when your female friend loses weight and becomes successful, you also want to copy her, but in fact, you don’t really feel that you have to be as thin as her, even if you say you want to lose weight like lightning, you feel that it’s okay to be a little fat.
3, Surface phenomena
The most obvious feature of brain goals is that the surface phenomena are very serious. For example, when your colleague gets promoted and gets a raise, you also want to do it. When your classmates pass the CPA exam, you also want to take it. When your friends bought the latest trendy clothes, you reluctantly bought one too.
This is the surface phenomenon of brain goals, chasing the happiness and gains of others, but this is not necessarily what you really want, it’s just a desire for something similar.
Brain goals are easier to understand, let’s talk about heart goals.
Heart goals, just by definition, are clearly and obviously defined. The book gives a clear example: Facebook’s founder Mark Zuckerberg. He used to be the youngest billionaire. He set a goal to learn to speak Mandarin. Zuckerberg said he wanted to use Mandarin to tell his wife’s grandmother that he was about to marry her. He expected to see her happy and shocked look, this is a heart goal.
Heart goals are warm and attractive, and will attract you to really do it and do it well, which is a powerful inner drive.
Having a clear understanding of goal categorization, you must have a better understanding of heart goals and brain goals. Next time you plan, you should reduce the brain goals and increase the heart goals.
So how to create a heart-based goal plan for the next five years? That is to enhance inner drive and make the goals more stable.
Does this goal make you feel a sense of excitement?
The book says you can use the five senses to write a letter to your future self, expressing your vision with a heart-based approach, and increase your inner drive to strive for it.
Before doing this, let’s explain what the five senses are. The five senses refer to using your vision, hearing, taste, touch, and smell to write your vision five years from now.
Simply put, it’s to transform your one-sentence goal into a scene with detailed descriptions, body language, environmental language, which is more attractive than writing a useless feeling.
Imagine, isn’t the latter more captivating? Second, the scene created by the goal must be detailed, let’s look at the example in the book: ‘Going to Taiwan for a trip’ – ‘Driving around the island with my wife, stopping at a seaside, no people, our cars are parked on the beach, we sit side by side and watch the sunset.’
Although it’s attractive to travel to Taiwan, it’s not as captivating as being in that situation, describing the details, body language, environmental language, is more attractive than writing a useless feeling.