Living in this world, no one is an isolated island.
Many people are afraid to trouble others and don't like to be troubled by others.
They don't realize that good relationships can be 'troubled' mutually.If the people around you no longer trouble you, it means you are losing and distancing yourself.
When children don't trouble you, they may have grown up
Tsai Ming-ling says inBlacKkKlansman:
Parents and children are a lifetime, your connection with him is to watch his receding back gradually disappear.He watches you disappear at the bend of the road.He tells you not to chase.
When children no longer trouble you, he may have already grown up.Don't complain that it's hard to help your children with their homework, it won't take many years, when you look at the light in your child's room going out, you will miss the little figure sitting there, sometimes studying, sometimes playing..., watching the empty bedroom, you want him to sit there again, but he's already far away.
That familiar bedroom is already without the familiar smell.
Home has become a vacationer's temporary lodging.He no longer annoys you, and he doesn't even speak to you much.
Gradually, you'll find he's becoming more and more independent and no longer troubles you.At that time, you will miss those days of accompanying him, wanting to take him to school, pick him up from school, miss that little boy who always annoys you but always brings you,
Don't despise children for troubling you, one day they will leave on their own, without looking back.
You will finally understand that the joy children bring us is not how excellent their grades are, but the time spent accompanying them, that is a precious connection.
Marriage is when two people love each other, annoy each other, but don't separate, and stick together for a lifetime.
A good marriage needs mutual trouble to last longer.Now many people are always unwilling to trouble others in their relationships.
Giving flowers, troubling;Holding hands, troubling;Sending messages, troubling.They don't realize that many marriages end in isolation because they don't want to trouble each other.The short film '30 Days of Agreement' that went viral once.The husband and wife agreed to divorce in the first 30 days.They promised to be like in love, hug, hold hands, say 'I love you' for 30 days, special days exchange gifts.
As the 30-day agreement approached, the husband realized he still loved his wife deeply.
The beautiful moments of their love were because of those seemingly 'troubling' things.When he became more impatient with his wife and unwilling to trouble her, love was eroded day by day.
Good feelings and relationships are all born from mutual trouble.
Mutual trouble has depth and richness, and it makes feelings deepen.There is an old couple who have lived together for decades.
When people ask them the secret of their marriage longevity, they say it's because they like to trouble each other.Some things, although the old lady can complete them independently, she still asks the old man for help.
The old man still complains to her, 'It's really troublesome' but still diligently doing it.The old lady says he likes her to trouble her, the old man says he likes to be troubled by her.
The two liked to trouble each other for decades, and their feelings became sweeter and deeper.Someone who likes to trouble and someone who likes to be troubled is one of the beautiful states in marriage.
When your lover no longer troubles you, people will become strangers.What is most feared in a relationship is:
Not willing to trouble each other.Truly deep love is that I want to trouble you, and I want to be troubled by you, to support each other along the way, and to need each other, to live together until whitehead.03When parents don't trouble you anymore, they may have passed away. People in middle age, with elderly parents and young children, they run desperately in their careers, when they look back, their parents are gradually aging.
We always think that we still have a long time with our parents, until we are successful, we will treat our parents well, but time is ruthless, our success speed is far beyond our parents' aging speed.
Young woman Xiao Mei once complained that her mother was too troublesome, not only nagging at home but also calling her during her work.
Xiao Mei said several times that she didn't want to pick up her mother's phone.
Until recently, she hadn't heard her mother call again.
It turned out that her mother suddenly fainted at home a few weeks ago, and the hospital check showed she had a brain blood clot, she was saved by emergency treatment, she was currently hospitalized.How she wished her mother could still nag at her as before.
But her mother was lying in the hospital bed.
When parents are old, you must know them.
As children, we add many troubles to our parents, but our parents have never complained.Now they are old, we should be patient with them, just like when we were young.
As long as we wait until we are old, we should treat them the way we treated them when we were young.Before we are old, we should treat our parents as we do now, don't let your love be late.Cherish those who trouble you, because we only have our lifetime to spend with each other, and those who can be troubled are the people we are closest to.
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