Don't Assume Taking a Loss is Lucky; From Others' Perspective, You Might Just Be a Fool
Don't think that taking a loss is a blessing; from other people's perspective, you might just be a fool.
The foundation of relationships is fairness, not one party taking a loss while the other gains an advantage.
When someone evaluates another person, that's a person who never suffers a loss. He casually mentioned his own opinion: to have good interpersonal relationships, you must learn to take a loss; taking a loss is a blessing.
'Taking a loss is a blessing' is a pragmatic concept we often hear in life, and a common sentence used to educate others. Some even say that if you don't learn to take a loss, you won't make friends. But is it really necessary to learn to take a loss to have good relationships? In fact, there is no one who willingly takes a loss in real life, so I find this view quite funny.
Relationships between people are initially based on equality; if everyone stands in a position of inequality, where one party takes a loss and the other gains an advantage, such relationships are unbalanced and unequal. The idea of 'taking a loss is a blessing' actually seems like some people's self-comfort after taking a loss, but this idea has created some people who take advantage of others and justify their actions. It has also created some people who suffer losses but remain humble and submissive.
But is it really necessary to learn to take a loss in relationships? In fact, it's not. We all advocate for fair and friendly relationships, especially in the economic field, where we promote equality and mutual benefit and win-win cooperation. No one says I'll take a loss to let someone else make money, and that's against the principle of fairness. Even in love, this doesn't apply.
In daily life, we encounter many different people. Those who always try to take advantage of others will always find ways to take advantage of others, and they won't associate with you if you've taken a loss. They might even think you're a fool and take advantage of you.
Everyone wants to have friendly relationships and not fraudulent ones. So don't expect to get true friendship or true emotions by taking a loss. That's unrealistic. 'Taking a loss is a blessing' only helps us not to think about taking advantage of others, but to think about giving to others and letting them benefit, so that they will return the favor or simply make us feel happy and satisfied. But this giving is not really a loss, but rather receiving another return from others, which gives us a sense of happiness and fulfillment.
We all advocate for doing things first and people first. In the business field, we promote a service concept that uses our output to obtain our needs, which is a truly win-win situation and a deeper and broader field of development.
'Taking a loss is a blessing' helps us to maintain our position and not take advantage of others. But it's not about learning to take a loss. If we start relationships with the intention of taking a loss, the relationship will be unequal, and such a relationship won't lead to a friendly atmosphere.
We don't need to learn to take a loss; we need to learn a fair and friendly relationship. At any time, only fairness and justice lead to a long-lasting and equal relationship. Just like a balance scale, balance is achieved when both sides are equal, not when one side is heavier than the other, or when one side gives and the other takes without reciprocation.
We should always maintain a normal, friendly, and equal mindset in relationships, rather than pursuing gains in the moment. If he's someone you value and want to maintain a relationship with, he won't let you take a loss. If he just wants to take advantage of you or gain something from you, you won't get anything even if you take a loss.
2020.3.9.13:19
