I used to be so afraid of offending people that I wouldn't ask for anything, wouldn't say the wrong thing, afraid of awkward silences, afraid of being ignored, afraid of others being unhappy. I was in a state of constant panic when facing everyone. Sadly, I didn't receive the respect I deserved.

Later, I started indulging and accommodating myself – I would leave first if you were late, didn't want to force myself to do anything, filled silences with my phone, only considering my own feelings, and didn't care what others thought. Then I realized that I was valued and, more importantly, happier.

If there's a connection, missed opportunities can be revisited; if there's no connection, encounters will naturally part ways. There are reasons for gatherings and excuses for departures; life has no 'ifs,' only consequences and results.

When seeking a partner, look for someone generous and open-minded – someone who won't tolerate being 'defeated' no matter how many times they say 'I love you.' A person who loves you will willingly lose to you. Learning to accommodate and tolerate will prove that you truly love them. They may not give you much, but with forgiveness, you give yourself everything.

A person should live like the Great Sage Monkey – wild, loving, hating, challenging, striving, and pushing oneself, but never fearing anything. Sometimes, relationships feel off, so it's okay to create a little distance. After a while, things will feel right, and you can slowly approach again – it's like a waltz; it's a beautiful dance. If you step on someone's foot, just laugh it off.

I will gradually create distance with you until we have no connection. The reason you can't be happy is because you can't tolerate your current situation and you have no ability to change it; you can be lazy like a pig, but you can't be lazy and content.

Every night, you can sleep soundly, peacefully, and with a sense of accomplishment; every morning, you can wake up refreshed, calm, and full of energy. That's the best life.