Shifting the focus and needs of life entirely to others is abandoning oneself.
If a person focuses their life's center and conflicts on others, their life will inevitably be sad, bleak, and helpless.
In the past, human productive capacity was low, unable to resist nature, so people created theology to create a psychological pillar for the masses, providing them with a sense of hope.
As people's awareness of themselves becomes more objective, through continuous improvement of their creative and learning abilities, they have cultivated a stronger self.
Whatever they need or achieve, they start from themselves. No matter what difficulties they encounter in life, they make every effort to solve them. Therefore, their resentment and complaints are less, because no matter how they resent, they first deny themselves.
Only oneself can be controlled to 100%. Because control is of oneself, therefore their expectations will not deviate too much from their capabilities, and their wishes are therefore easier to realize, and their satisfaction will be greater.
Conversely, indulging oneself through blaming others will lead to unrestrained indulgence. The more one indulges, the more vulnerable they feel. The weaker they feel, the less capable they are. The less capable they are, the worse their life becomes. Living in this endless vicious cycle for a long time can easily lead to self-destruction.
All life's hardships are caused by oneself, because they don't believe they can be strong, so they constantly seek protection from others, but others are uncontrollable.
A person only has the ability to fulfill their own needs when they first satisfy themselves.
A person's needs are not measured by external factors; only their inner self knows what their needs are. And everyone's need is different, so they can offer different amounts of energy.
Some people find that as long as they can eat, they are satisfied. This means their need is to eat, and any excess they create will be given to others, and those around them can quickly benefit from the handouts.
If this person's needs are many, then those around him need a longer time to wait for his handouts.
If this person can't even satisfy their own needs, then those around them will get nothing.
A person's needs are not just about fulfilling themselves; fulfilling others is also a need, and this outward need must be prioritized.
A selfless mother raises her children; her need is for her children to eat first, so she has a need to eat.
Some mothers prioritize their sons; their need is for their mothers to be satisfied first. So at any time, they will always stand on their mothers' side.
And everyone's order of outward needs is different. And no matter what the needs are, they must first satisfy what they want to satisfy.
Because these needs are controlled by oneself, which allows them to constantly unleash their innate potential to become a better self, thus satisfying their own needs.
Once they become excellent, do they still need others to satisfy them? At least, when they are capable, they don't need it. Since they still have the ability, they have nothing to resent or complain about!
However, no matter how excellent a person is, their contributions will be reasonable. If they excessively obtain satisfaction from others too early, they will inevitably arouse people's opposition.
