It's okay to turn over a new leaf and stand your ground, don't be afraid to offend others.
To be a human, we must not only learn to be tolerant, but also learn to show our own strengths, to turn over a new leaf when necessary, and not be afraid to offend others.
In the beginning, human nature is inherently good. We should strive for goodness, and our lives should be guided by goodness. However, if we only focus on goodness without any resistance, we will lose our ability to confront evil and may not achieve our full potential.
Kindness has its limits. If we lack flexibility and understanding, our pursuit of goodness can become another form of imposing our own views, and we may lose our way.
Not opposing others is kindness, but not opposing others while feeling frustrated and restricted is a waste of life. The correct way to be benevolent is not to oppose others, nor to compromise oneself.
Being benevolent doesn't mean always complying with others; it's about first obeying your own inner voice.
It's important to ask for help when needed. Many people avoid bothering others because they've been raised to believe 'everything depends on oneself' and 'do things yourself.' This can lead to reluctance to ask for assistance, fearing to trouble others.
It's often said that not bothering others is a virtue. However, if we always try to solve things alone, we can often achieve more by seeking help. The greatest wisdom is not to avoid asking for help, but to occasionally seek assistance.
When facing conflicts, we shouldn't shrink back. Sometimes, stepping back is perceived as a way to create space, but this doesn't always work. Some people take advantage of our weakness and exploit us. When we're at our limit, we must stand our ground.
Kind people are often more approachable and easier to accept and admire. However, excessive kindness without any resistance can lead us into a trap. It's important to have the ability to stand up for ourselves.
Refusing unreasonable demands is a virtue. Many people feel awkward and unhappy because they're afraid of hurting others and do things they don't want to do. Over time, they become accustomed to saying 'no,' and are afraid of offending others. It's important to be able to say 'no' decisively, without hesitation or ambiguity.
Refusing to comply is a right. Sometimes, it's necessary to protect our own emotions and reject unreasonable requests. This is a way to protect ourselves and others.
When facing conflict, we must have boundaries. There are some things we shouldn't always concede. If we continue to back down, the problems will only worsen, and we'll eventually feel overwhelmed.
Kind people are often more approachable and easier to accept and admire. However, excessive kindness without any resistance can lead us into a trap. It's important to have the ability to stand up for ourselves.
When faced with unfair requests, the best approach is to resist from the beginning. Even if others are unhappy, it's important to show our resolve. This is a way to assert ourselves and prevent others from exploiting our kindness.
A kind person should have their own presence. Only with a sense of self-worth can we resist being taken advantage of. When faced with those who take advantage of our kindness, we shouldn't show mercy.
Refusing to give in to evil is a form of cultivation.
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