Some people, once you miss them, they are gone forever. So we always advise people in love to learn to cherish what they have.

However, there are many uncontrollable factors in love. And sometimes, we may not even understand why we chose to do things that way in the past.

But for those past loves, no matter how much effort we put into trying to return to the way things were, it's ultimately futile.

I often encounter similar readers in my daily interactions. When they share their stories with me, they always have deep regrets. But, no matter what, no one can help them in such situations.

After all, the root cause of all this is that they made their own mistakes. Therefore, we can only advise, and there's nothing else we can do.

For those in love, it's important to have your own principles. You need to learn to cherish the person you should cherish. Don't leave yourself with regrets.

Reader Xiao Wang, a recently heartbroken man. Let's take a look at his story.

Teacher you:

"Honestly, I really didn't expect this to happen. After such a turn of events, I and my ex-girlfriend parted ways completely."

The reasons were as follows, we had been dating for 3 years. We were originally planning to get married. So I took her to our home."

I wanted to let my parents see her. But I didn't expect my mother to dislike her. My mother felt that she was too far from our family, and she wanted me to marry a woman who lived closer to home.

Because of this reason, she was very angry. And I was also very troubled at the time. On one hand, I considered my mother's feelings, and on the other hand, I had to consider her feelings.

I've always been a dutiful child, so I didn't say anything when my mother said that.

And I told her, 'Let's calm down for a while.'

Actually, I didn't mean anything. I was just very troubled. But after a period of calm, I did what my mother thought was right. My mother eventually agreed.

I was very happy to find my girlfriend.

'My mother agreed to our marriage, please marry me,' when I said that, she said, 'Sorry, I'm already engaged.'

I naturally didn't believe it, I thought she was lying to me. She said, 'It's true, my mother said you're not suitable for me. I also want to marry a woman who lives closer to home. Let's just part ways.'

In this way, my girlfriend refused to say anything more. No matter how I explained, she wouldn't give me another chance.

This is how I lost my girlfriend. After losing my girlfriend, I also thought a lot. In fact, all this was due to my lack of firmness. I didn't give her a clear answer at that time.

It was my own fault, I admitted it myself.

Emotional Advice:

There's no 'what if' in the world of emotions. Once you miss someone, it's gone forever. I think, this gentleman must be wondering, if he had been firm in his position in the past, he wouldn't have ended up like this.

We must be decisive and make our own choices when it comes to our emotions.

People who are hesitant in love often regret it. Just like this gentleman, he regrets it now. But even if he regrets it, he can't change her mind.

A woman will consider many factors when she's considering marriage. In this case, the woman was more concerned about how her future mother-in-law might be. And if she were to marry him, she might not be happy.

Furthermore, the boyfriend didn't stand by her when it was most critical. From a certain perspective, this shows that the man didn't love her as much as he thought.

So she would eventually make a breakup decision.

That's how love is. Once you miss someone, it's forever. From then on, the two of them will never have any contact again.

And because of my hesitation and uncertainty, I ended up regretting it. So I had to face this regret myself.

People in love who truly understand how to cherish and make decisive choices will be 'at ease' and will be happy.

As I think about it, whether you're a man or a woman, when you make a major decision in love, you must be calm and decisive, and you must make a clear statement.

If you don't have confidence in your own love, how can your partner have confidence in you?

I hope that all those in love will understand this principle. Don't wait until you lose it to regret. At that time, regret is meaningless.

Today's Topic: If you were her, would you break up? Welcome to discuss!

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