New Year: Become Yourself, Achieve Yourself, Let Go of Yourself

become yourself

ancient people said: who is behind no one speaks, any person in front does not speak.

in life, almost no one can escape the fate of being commented on by others.

in our lives, big like finding a job, getting married and having children, small like posting on, what clothes to wear, even how to walk, more or less, will be subject to the comments of others.

especially when young, it is easier to be affected by such comments, live in the eyes of others.

you're 30 years old, why haven't you gotten married yet?

why are you getting so fat, you don't even try to control yourself?

why are you wearing this kind of clothes?

such questioning comments seem always to linger in one's ears, making one helpless, unable to defend oneself, just silently enduring it.

especially when young, it is easier to be affected by such comments, live in the eyes of others.

there is a question on the internet, about what it feels like to be commented on.

a lot of answers got a lot of likes, saying:

fear of making mistakes every minute, and falling into public disgrace. more and more distrustful of those around me, and more and more self-doubt.

this is the fact.

the more you care about other people's thoughts, the less happy you are: abandon your true inner thoughts and preferences, submit to the eyes of others, and make yourself miserable to please others, and finally you know less and less what you are, and you dislike yourself more and more.

in 'awkward hall', jiang fangzhou said:'people who truly appreciate you will always appreciate your proud appearance, not your humble and obsequious appearance.'

people are the sum of society, being in a society, inevitably will comment on others, or be commented on by others. and different people because of the different education and growth environment, will have different opinions on the same thing.

since so, why bother?

instead of regretting oneself in the future, be brave and confident to be oneself.

our lives need guidance, but not just pointing and directing.

our lives don't need others to pay for us, so we don't need to over-care about others' evaluations.

for the new year, not asking for perfection, just asking for no regrets, follow your heart, become yourself.

achieve yourself

having chosen to follow your heart and become yourself, the rest of your life, why not try your best to achieve yourself.

someone once said to ma yun: 'i admire you, you have endured so many difficult days.'

unexpectedly, ma yun said to him: 'no, i admire you. even knowing that days are unchanging and without hope, you can still continue for ten years, day after day.'

even knowing that days are unchanging and without hope, still continue day after day without any change, this is a kind of self-indulgence.

it's never too late to change yourself. achieve yourself, and you can do your best in the rest of your life.

zheng jiangfu was 43 years old before he founded huawei;

sima qian started writing 'the records' at 42 years old, and completed it at 60 years old.

li bou 47 years old before he responded to the uprising of chen sheng and wu guang in paixian.

wu chen'en also didn't write the first ten chapters of 'journey to the west' until 50 years old, then he stopped writing due to circumstances, until he retired and returned to his hometown to officially create 'journey to the west'. and at that time, he was already 72 years old.

effort, it's never too late.

time is a one-way street, it's gone, it can't come back.

at this moment, since you've already understood your inner self, and chosen your own path, you should ignore the vulgar and distracting comments, and firmly follow your will, bravely go ahead.

sometimes life will give you a blow, but don't be discouraged, believe in the only force that keeps you moving forward, that is your love for what you do, and your self-love.

for the new year, accept yourself, love life, do your best, achieve yourself.

look down on yourself

before you, there is wealth and fame, behind you, there is a pile of earth, everything is empty.

for the new year, look down on yourself, be humble and upward.

we know since childhood that the great scientific figure mrs. Curie, she won 10 awards in total, 16 kinds of medals, and 107 titles, especially she also won two Nobel Prizes.

she could have enjoyed these honors in any major award or any honor, but she didn't regard honors as dung, and never put these honors in her heart.

one day, a friend of mrs. Curie came to her home to visit, and suddenly saw her little daughter playing with the golden award just issued by the Royal Society.

mrs. Curie smiled and said: 'i want my child to know from an early age that honors are like toys, they can only be played with, and cannot be taken too seriously, otherwise, it will be a waste of time.'

like mrs. Curie who is detached from honors and only focuses on doing things and dedicating herself, there are many many. those who are attached to honors and wealth, there are also many many.

what is detaching from honors and wealth? is detaching from honors and wealth the same as being aloof from the world, always drifting in smoke and clouds, without desire and without pursuit, a Buddhist-like life?

as zheng luo said: 'cultivate your mind through detachment.' detaching from honors and wealth should not be affected by it. because understanding your aspirations clearly, can make you more determined to achieve your career, and not lost in honors and wealth.

in 'garden path classics', zheng hao said:'don't be in the front of those who enjoy benefits, but don't be behind those who do good deeds.'

in terms of honor and wealth, don't be in the front of others, but in terms of moral cultivation, you should be in the front of others.

life is one lifetime, honor and wealth are all empty. in your 100th year, you remember the past, it's just remembering the passionate youth when you were full of blood.

don't be complacent because of what you've experienced and what you've possessed, maintain a humble attitude, and constantly learn, so that your life can always remain in a positive and upward state.

life has no regrets, that's the way. life has no resentment, that's virtue!

for the new year, become yourself, achieve yourself, look down on yourself.

happy new year, wish you happiness and good health.

in the rest of your life, wish you have no regrets.