We never fear enthusiasm in interpersonal relationships, but we may fear four things, because this means interpersonal relationships are unstable, and also means human nature changes, which can catch us off guard and cause harm.

01 Deep friendship after indifference

When we were young, we had a very good relationship with a friend. Later, we grew up and became separated by the south and north. She got married early, while I worked hard and pursued my career.

Once I met her again, I realized we were completely different people. She complained constantly about her daily necessities, while I was still thinking about the next project coordination.

We didn't realize this awkwardness for long, and our sweet friendship was no match for reality. I understand her suffering, but I can't help her, and she may also understand my pressure, but we can't deeply understand each other's worlds.

I suddenly felt that our friendship was over, and it's unlikely we'll see each other again. I had to accept this cruel reality—relationships have their cycles, and friendships also have their stages.

Over the years, I was busy in my field, and we rarely met. I even feared meeting her, perhaps because I worried about having nothing to say, and our long-standing friendship was no longer a reality.

In fact, many people break up without knowing why. It's not what we want. As we move forward in life, we must learn to move forward, and on the way, we may find that some people can only accompany us for a while, and cannot accompany us throughout our lives. When we accept the stage of friendship, we may not linger and grieve, but accept the reality of growth.

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02 Serious after disappointment

In interpersonal relationships, we most fear that others treat us sincerely, but we are not regarded as important. Everyone wants to meet sincere people.

But some people never do this. They take our kindness for granted and don't understand how to cherish them. They constantly demand, and when we try our best to be good to others, they don't appreciate it. Once we don't agree with them, they immediately criticize us.

A customer once told me that he sincerely helped his younger brother, helped him open a store, and moved in. He thought he had done everything he could, but their relationship became very tense.

His younger brother left him without a relationship, and he felt that he was very wronged under his younger brother's hand. It took him a long time to recover.

In interpersonal relationships, we most fear that our sincerity is not recognized by others. The more we give, the more our efforts are misunderstood. This lack of recognition makes us feel that interpersonal relationships need a sense of friendship to support them. If there is no gratitude and seeing, even if we do more, it will not warm anyone's heart.

03 Trust after utilization

In interpersonal relationships, we are also afraid of the utilization of trust. This type of relationship is common in the workplace, especially when you first enter the workplace.

When we are good to others, some people may approach us with ulterior motives. These motives are not pure and may be deadly.

A colleague once told me a story. When she first started working, she was very hardworking, so she was a reserve cadre of the company. Whenever there was a chance, she could be promoted. Then she met a colleague who was very enthusiastic. At that time, she was young and was influenced by her enthusiasm. She gradually got close to her. The colleagues talked about work, including their opinions on the leader. She didn't realize that her colleague would tell their leader the next day.

In the end, she was not promoted. This was not the most important thing for her, because she could find another job. What was distressing her was that she felt it would be difficult to meet pure friendships again, and someone she could confide in. This made her very sad.

Everyone should know that true trust is mutual loyalty, and a reliable character. Trust is based on mutual trust and reliance. When trust is lost, emotions will be scattered.

04 Enthusiasm after indifference

In interpersonal relationships, we are also saddened by the indifference after enthusiasm. Some people are enthusiastic when you first meet them, making you think you've found a person with a good personality, and you can talk and laugh together, which is very enjoyable.

But one day, when you meet them again, they don't recognize you, and they even feel strange, you realize that interpersonal relationships are ever-changing, and the people we thought were good personalities may just be temporary, and they are actually cold-blooded and indifferent.

We are most afraid of the indifference after enthusiasm, which makes us feel the complexity of human nature. But we have to accept this reality—some people are inherently cold.

Enthusiasm is just her appearance, while indifference is the essence. There was a person in our village like this. She was always enthusiastic towards people, but when she encountered difficulties, the village elder lent her money, and she promised to repay it in two years. After two years, when the village elder asked her about the money, she changed her attitude completely, which was very chilling.

Everyone should know that in interpersonal relationships, we should find true and genuine people, and in interpersonal relationships, don't have too many expectations, otherwise we will be hurt by interpersonal relationships and misunderstandings. You can come and go freely in interpersonal relationships.

Today's topic: what are you most afraid of in interpersonal relationships? Welcome to discuss and exchange.