True friends aren't about reckless talking; they're about understanding your boundaries and needs.
Take you as a friend to mock you
Then I'd rather you didn't consider me a friend
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Do you have such a friend around you? He always likes to discuss your privacy or embarrassing stories you don't want to mention in public, often inappropriately mocking you, sometimes even making it impossible for you to speak out, but you can't be angry otherwise he'll say you're not joking around, making you both frustrated and helpless. If you have such a friend, I firstly express my sympathy to you, secondly I want to say, such a friend is not your true friend, because he hasn't done what it takes to be considerate of your feelings.
What is a friend?A friend is the one who gives you care and support in daily life, the one who reaches out to help you when you're in trouble, the one who remains loyal to you even in your lowest points… A friend should be heartwarming, time keeps changing, but friendship remains unchanged, deepening with the passage of time.
A friend doesn't need to contact you constantly, but as long as a phone call or a message, you can connect immediately.True friends, bring a sense of mental stability to each other.02
Recently, there's been a pretty hot topic reality show called 'We Are True Friends'. The show features the first gathering of BigS, XiaS, Aya and Fan Xiaoxuan, four friends who have known each other for over 20 years. In the show, the most real side of the friends is exposed, with frank and candid interactions, making people feel empathize, but there are also some discordant scenes that have sparked many online discussions.
Aya was like a little girl at Honggang Art School, looking unattractive and lacking feminine qualities, while BigS and XiaS were already quite famous in school because of their beautiful appearances. Back then, Aya and BigS were together, as XiaS said, Aya was like a 'clown,' BigS would often tease Aya, making her embarrassed and even hurt, and she would often 'tease' her, believing it was a 'joke'.
This 'teasing' continued until they grew up and worked, but Aya had become more beautiful, no longer a 'clown' in the crowd, but BigS was already used to treating Aya in the way she had in their youth, until one time, XiaS invited Aya to a show and made inappropriate jokes, seeing Aya's growing awkwardness, she realized she had hurt Aya too much. After the show, Aya found XiaS and for the first time said in a formal manner: 'Please don't make jokes about me in public, I'm uncomfortable, and I don't like it.' Although XiaS was upset, she also apologized to Aya.
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No matter how long-term the friendship, you need to pay attention to the boundaries, jokes shouldn't be opened carelessly, because you don't know when you'll hurt others, some things you think are insignificant, may be the bottom line that others can't cross. What you consider to be humor may be 'uneducated' in others' eyes. In reality, many people have been harmed by the excuse of friendship, but they often know they've been hurt, but they can only helplessly, because they don't want their friendship to become awkward.Some words shouldn't be said, and they'll be bottled up in your heart forever, who knows where the bottom line is.
I wish we could all have true friends, and we could also be true friends to others. Respect each other, support each other, and encourage each other.
