I've heard this sentence: There are two places in the world that can best tell whether a couple is still in love. One is the bedroom, and the other is the dining table. I regard it as a matter of great importance. A man must eat to live. Relationships and affections depend on meals. Especially in marriage, the way a couple eats can reveal their marital status. The appearance on the dining table Hides the most real state of marriage Recently, because I helped my friend with a matter, she invited me to dinner to express her gratitude. I ate the dinner awkwardly, and felt very uncomfortable.,She and her husband came with their child, and the child was too young to sit in a baby seat, so they had to hold the child throughout the meal. From the beginning to the end, her husband didn't even bother to hold the child, let alone let take a bite. He just ate and ate, and never offered to help with a bite.,He even complained that couldn't coax the child to stop crying. Until they left the restaurant, still hadn't finished eating several mouthfuls. And he kept saying, 'I'm so full.' This scene is really touching. After returning home, sent me a message saying, 'It's funny you're making fun of me.' I hadn't had time to reply when she said again,I'm really afraid of going out with my husband and friends to eat, because of my poor marriage, I'm easily laughed at. Sometimes I think, even if I pretend, I have to look good in front of others. But then I realized, whether it's love or not, the appearance on the dining table is useless. It's a saying from the movie 'The Godfather',A man can be in the battlefield, but the dining table is the holy land of life. As long as you are sitting with your family, you only need to play the role of a good father and husband, and give your family warmth and happiness. In good marriages, husbands and wives will understand each other's difficulties, at least they will do things like taking turns to cook and eat, and let each other have a good meal. But if a person always only cares about his own full stomach, and doesn't care if you have had a good meal, what can you expect him to do to take care of you in marriage? You have to eat together to be together! Marriage is just two people living together. To be together, you must eat together. Korean variety show 'Same Bed Different Dream' Li Weiming and his wife often fought because of eating.,Li Weiming likes to cook and eat at home, even if it's late at night, he still wants to cook and eat at home.,But his wife thinks it's too tiring and boring to cook every day, and she can order takeout or go out to eat.,And Li Weiming didn't cooperate at all, which often led to quarrels.,There are many similar cases in real life. My high school classmate divorced two years ago. When she talked about the reason for the divorce, she only said six words: 'Didn't eat together.' For example, when she wanted to eat pizza, her ex-husband would say, 'Isn't that just a pie? There's nothing special to eat, and it's not expensive.' When she wanted to eat a hamburger, he said with disdain, 'Why eat that stuff, it's better to eat a vegetable sandwich.' When she wanted to drink coffee, he thought she was pretending to be sophisticated.,And she didn't like him to eat and chew, and he disliked her elegant posture.,Although these seemingly simple conflicts caused by eating, they eventually led to disagreements in other aspects of life.,It escalated to irreconcilable differences in ideology and eventually led to endless arguments.,You think he is stingy, he thinks you are wasteful, you can't manage money well.,You think he doesn't understand romance, he thinks you are pretentious and extravagant.,In fact, neither of them is wrong, they just have different views, and they can't eat together.,Zhang Xiao Xian said,'Love starts at the dining table, and it ends at the dining table.'
The most moving love will eventually become commonplace, relying on the daily meals to maintain this ordinary happiness.,Throughout our lives, we are looking for a person who can eat together, and when we grow up, we are looking for a person who can eat together.,Modern deaf marriages:
Eating together, playing mobile phones I saw a comment in an article,'Before the divorce, she and her husband used to have weekend dinners. Every weekend, she would cook a dish, and her husband would eat it. When she finished cooking, he would almost finish it.' She really wanted to cook and eat with him, chat, and enjoy a warm meal.,But her husband didn't listen to her opinions, and he still did whatever he wanted.,Over time, she lost the desire to cook.,In fact, this is not just her case, many wives encounter similar helplessness in life.,You cook, he plays on his phone, you make a dish, he plays on his phone, this is the most common situation.,I don't know when it started, we let go of our chopsticks, but not our mobile phones; We can see the world in mobile phones, but we can't see the love of the people at the dining table; We have time and energy to admire the happy marriages on the internet, but we don't want to spend energy and effort to manage our own happy lives.,When the ideal warm and fragrant meals have disappeared, and the warm and happy family meals have disappeared, it makes people feel more comforted.,When we have a common meal, we are silent and cold to each other.,There is a saying from the Japanese drama 'The Perfect Divorce','Being together doesn't mean you're a couple, and a couple doesn't necessarily mean a family. A family is the ability to sit down and drink tea and eat a meal.' In this fast-paced era, the time we spend with our partners is often very little.,Then let's go home and eat together, put down our phones, and play the role of family members, and enjoy a simple meal, and happiness will come naturally.,Don't let the mobile phones always lie on the dining table, and let the family's hearts become cold, and let happiness fade.,Good marriages start with a good meal,Mr. Zhong Chun Shu said in 'Eating','Eating sometimes is like getting married, the most important thing on the surface is often a supplement.' The taste you get in your mouth is the joy, sorrow, and anger you experience, and the taste you get is the happiness and joy of marriage.,Good marriages start with a good meal, “”
