No Matter How Difficult Life Gets, You Must Learn to Let Go of These Three Ways of Thinking, Give Yourself a Mental Break, and Treat Yourself Well
This thing of thinking belongs to humans exclusively, which is a fact we cannot deny, and it is precisely because of the connection between language and thought that we have become increasingly wise. However, within these thoughts and languages, most people still struggle to escape their nature, such as brain laziness, tendency to seek benefits, greed, selfishness, and so on. Optimizing and correcting these innate tendencies is not an overnight task, moreover, many people are limited by practical situations, and it's impossible for them to reach the ideal described in books. However, changing one's thinking patterns is still possible to quickly reverse, and transforming one's thinking methods is the first step in personal improvement. Next, let's organize three common thinking patterns,
1, Penguin Thinking, imitation is very effective, but don't overdo it
People have an ingrained instinct of imitation, such as a person standing on an empty grassy field, looking up at the sky, and within a short time, a group of people will gather to look up at the sky, even if they don't know what others are looking at, they will still go to imitate. Sometimes imitation can allow us to learn knowledge and acquire skills very effectively, but sometimes it can lead us astray,
For example, many people have heard the saying that wealth and risk are proportional; you won't gain wealth unless you take risks. Even some 'masters of operations' will say to you in order to gain your trust, 'Dare to do it, it's okay if you lose, if you make a profit, let's share it.' If you really believe it, the loss will inevitably be yours. No one likes risk, unless you don't even know what it is,
Many phenomena in life can be explained using penguin thinking, such as the sales volume and positive rate of e-commerce shopping, which directly determine whether we choose to place an order in a store. In 1955, management scholars Michael and Fred published a book, they personally bought 50,000 copies of the bestseller in the bestseller book store, although the book's views are very commonplace, it remained on the bestseller list for a long time, and its sales increased accordingly,
Imitation can be someone else, it can allow us to quickly learn a certain skill, but we may also be guided by others to run in the wrong direction,
2, Group Thinking
Whether it's in the workplace or in life, we easily see that people always pursue group thinking, and they make themselves become 'not a mainstream' 'head' to be in groups, so they always follow the team, and many people have formed such a psychological habit, 'it's okay everyone is doing it, even if it's wrong, it doesn't matter, everyone is doing it''. Excessive group behavior and excessive social organization and control often lead to disaster,
In general, the instinct of group thinking/seeking similarity has three main forms,
- Traditional thinkingOnce we always follow tradition, it can make us lose the basic thinking ability, and it can even prevent us from trying new things. When facing tradition, we still need to think calmly, and from a rational perspective to view specific issues,
- Fear of isolationThis is the third layer of Maslow's needs hierarchy theory, namely belongingness needs and identity needs, that is, we need to contact the outside world and get recognition and acceptance from the outside. Customs also tell us a wrong perception, such as in China, many people think that tattoos are not good people, but for people with tattoos, it may be art, and it has nothing to do with a person's goodness. However, customs tell us a wrong perception, good people should not have tattoos, and respectable people should not scold people!
- 3, Binary ThinkingThis is a problem that many people are most common and most likely to make mistakes, such as someone tells you that this problem has only two solutions, you tell him, 'don't believe it'. This is a binary thinking approach to problem-solving, which often leads us to lose objectivity and fail to explore other solutions. Complex problems don't always have one or two solutions, using multi-faceted thinking models can make it clearer to see the complexity of the problem, and make it easier to obtain more solutions to solve the problem. Another reason why we are easily convinced that it is binary thinking is that it will provide us with some facts, and even include some truths, but it is not a complete truth,
Complex problems often have multiple ways to solve problems, not just one or two. Sometimes taking compromise or concession is not entirely bad, but we must avoid binary thinking, avoid illogical conclusions and excessive generalization. Cognitive truth is very complex, only by constantly admitting that our solutions are not perfect, and staying away from the temptation of binary thinking, we can get closer to reality and closer to the truth,
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