Night Listening | Everyone Relies on Others Except When You Have a Use
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Source | GuoXueWenKan (ID: GuoXuewenkan)
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Some say, 'People are not all the same, some are born to fate, and some rely on themselves.'
Many people devote all their energy to building relationships, hoping to improve their lives, but they still live a bleak life.
They don't realize that the strength of relationships is based on the strength of the individual.
If you are not outstanding, so-called connections are just jokes; if you have strong abilities, connections are just icing on the cake.
Ask for help rather than seek assistance, accept criticism rather than be overly assertive
As the saying goes, 'People live by their willpower, and Buddhists compete for an hour of incense.'
Often, people compete for a chance, not to satisfy vanity, not to stir up a major engineering project, but to nourish their spirit and energy.
'The flow of 'qi' determines whether a person can live a comfortable life.'
If you often need to ask for help, people will not be too boastful, even their tone of voice will be humble, they will be hesitant when speaking, instinctively 'look at people's faces.'
This is not humility, but a means of maintaining relationships, at the cost of disregarding their own feelings.
Rainho said: 'I would rather rely on my own strength to open my own path, rather than seek the favor of powerful people.'
Indeed, everything in the world has a price, to 'climb high branches' requires bearing humiliation; to ask people to shortcut, you have to owe people favors.
Tao Yuanming's iron-bone and steel-like life came from his 'not sacrificing five bushels of rice' attitude of life:
Don't easily ask for help, don't bend over to be in a crowd, don't lower your posture and resent yourself, don't forget self-respect and self-reliance.
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If you don't have a use for it, you won't have any chance
The Analects says, 'People are naturally non-different, and it is good to borrow from others.'
'A gentleman' is also a human being, their nature is no different from ordinary people, but they are better at utilizing advantages.
After all, the nature of relationships is mutual benefit. It's different from being cautious and restrained; it's more like complementing each other's abilities.
, even in university, was poor and blank, he would spend money to invite people to eat and build relationships.
He said, 'The future will have two types of relationships with classmates, either you need to use others, or others need you.'
He didn't always be kind, but he had his own judgment.
Anyone who never returns a favor, never shares, will automatically 'block' him; only those with good character and talent will invite him to start a business.
In this world, besides family, no one will be kind to you without reason.
Your words and deeds are all being considered.
If you are not talented, once you fall into a downturn, you will not see anyone offer a helping hand, but you will see people stirring up trouble, this has been the case throughout history.
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Improve yourself, and 'good people' will appear
Some say, 'Don't chase a horse, use the time spent chasing the horse to plant grass, wait until the spring of next year blooms, then you will have a batch of horses to choose from.'
The more splendid the flowers bloom, the more bees and butterflies will come; if a person is outstanding, it is easy to attract friends.
Don't complain about human nature's selfishness, this is a natural instinct to avoid harm; don't complain about the coldness of people's hearts, mutual reliance between people requires conditions.
Imagine, if you are always full of resentment, and a person is diligent and conscientious, who will people favor?
No one is stupid, they will not deliberately associate with people who are overly assertive, just to boast about 'treating everyone the same.'
If there is, it only shows that he is very capable, capable of tolerating people's endless complaints.
'If you bloom, the wind will come by itself.' This can also be understood as, only if you are good enough, will 'good people' appear.
If you have a good relationship, it's because you are trustworthy; if you are always successful, it's because you are responsible.
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Rainho said: 'It's not glorious to be superior to others, but truly glorious is to be better than yourself.'
It takes effort to be self-reliant, and it's only through self-discipline that you can demonstrate the value of life.
That is responsibility and responsibility, after all, life is not just for yourself.
Strengthen yourself, and give happiness to those you care about, you will never be helpless.
● Epilogue music: Li Zongheng - 'Because of Loneliness' ●
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Uncle Jiu HanSource: GuoXueWenKan (ID: GuoXuewenkan), Let culture enter life, let Confucian classics warm your heart. Please contact the original author for reprint, with half a co-authoring license.Night Listening | 'Heaven does not change people, people must change themselves'
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