Big Cong was a big guy, besides two major characteristics – irritable and loud. In terms of work ability, he was capable. During cooperation with him, as long as he was in a good mood, everything went smoothly. But if he was in a bad mood, no matter what small matter or words, he could easily explode with anger, turning his face and ranting wildly. Over time, colleagues gradually understood his personality, but this unstable personality still caused many unnecessary troubles and arguments in the workplace. As the department head, I had repeatedly communicated with him, hoping he wouldn't bring his emotions to the workplace. But he always dismissed it, believing that he was just quick-tempered, and people didn't have malicious intent. After all, colleagues were colleagues, why couldn't they understand each other?Recently, in a live project he was responsible for, because the venue decoration did not meet the standards, he vented angrily without asking about the reasons, and he scolded all the communication personnel on the spot. In the end, the live teacher complained to the platform and refused to cooperate. Because of this, the company decided to fire him. After hearing the news, Big Cong specifically came to find me to explain, saying that he had encountered some unhappy things recently, and he couldn't control his emotions at that time. He said, "I feel very wronged. The people around me don't understand me, and they always make it difficult for me."This is the crux of the matter. In Big Cong's view, the quality of life determined his emotional state. However, a person's mood could be completely determined by his own choices.Life is a mirror, whatever attitude you use to face it, you will get the corresponding response.All the bad emotions you pass on will eventually be paid for by yourself. The 'kick cat effect' in psychology is often heard. A father scolded his child fiercely at the company after being criticized by the boss. The child was furious in his heart and kicked the nearby cat, which happened to be hit by a truck, and the driver avoided it. However, people were injured. Triggering negative emotions is like igniting a match. Even if the cause is just a small matter, it can trigger a vicious cycle in bad emotions, leading to even greater chaos.In life, similar situations abound. For example, some people always feel that life is not going smoothly, often because they are not good at managing their emotions. They are easily irritable and angry, habitually complaining, and let emotions ferment, and then make their lives worse and worse.
I once read a fable. A snake was accidentally bitten by a saw. It was very angry and turned back and bit the saw. However, the saw was unharmed, and the snake cut its own mouth. Now the snake was furious, and it wrapped the saw with its whole body and used all its strength to fight it. As a result, it was a dead end.
The originally minor injury could be recovered with rest, but because of impulsive actions, it had to pay with its life.It harmed it, not the saw, but the inability to control its bad emotions.People are the same.We cannot control many things that happen, but we can control our emotions and behavior. Only by anchoring bad emotions and preventing them from spreading and worsening will the result go in a good direction. Adults all face difficulties and frustrations. But from another angle, this also tests a person's wisdom and emotional intelligence. During the Spring Festival reunion, I learned that my cousin, who hadn't seen for a year, had been promoted to a corporate supervisor.My cousin thought for a long time and said to me: "To earn respect, you must not only be good at doing things, but also at being a person. When encountering any difficulties, remind yourself to stay rational, reflect on yourself, and don't accuse others." Indeed. Everyone has emotions, but venting anger will not solve the problem, but will only make things worse. Only by calming yourself down first and then responding is the best way to solve the problem.As the ancients said: ''. In life, we should also try to be like water – kind and powerful, benevolent to people, and not contend for things. When you treat the world with gentleness and goodwill, the world will treat you with gentleness.'
