Child, Thank You for Storming Out
Yesterday evening, because I didn't let you play on your phone, you first glared at me fiercely, then stormed out.
At that moment, I completely woke up.
Child, thank you for storming out. For the past seventeen years, because you were picky about food, I've always tried to do everything for you, making all sorts of delicious dishes, but you never said a word of thanks.
And today I just said a critical word, and you stormed out.
Thank you for letting me understand that a mother shouldn't blindly and unconditionally give, such cheap giving can only make you more and more ungrateful and selfish.
So from today, whatever you need to do, you must do it yourself.
From today, you must wash your own clothes, cook your own food, and wash your own dishes. From today, I won't do anything for you.
Because you're grown up, you can completely rely on yourself.
Thank you for letting me understand my mistake as a mother—I shouldn't always consider for you, nor should I always bind you, nor should I always watch you playing games.
You said that I was always looking for trouble in your eyes.
Child, thank you for letting me understand that not all giving is worth it, and not all love is right.
Thank you for letting me understand that all pampering is a kind of harm, and all control is the biggest crime against a child.
I read an article about Sun Yang's mother today, and it was very shocking.
If it weren't for his mother being too powerful, if it weren't for his mother doing everything for him, if it weren't for his mother constantly protecting his growth, Sun Yang would have grown up healthy.
When her mother argued earnestly in court, I saw a mother blinded by confidence, a mother who had lost herself.
And when Sun Yang was banned for 8 years, I saw her mother's tears of regret, but it was already too late. If only I had known earlier, I wouldn't have done that.
But how many mothers are still blindly obsessed on the road of educating their children? A mother who is good at controlling her child can support her child's life, but she can also make him fall into a deep abyss.
It's clear that a good mother should first choose to believe in her child, believe that he can completely stand on his own and be self-reliant, instead of acting like a shadow behind him.
As children grow up, parents should learn to gracefully exit their children's lives, this is a matter of courage, and it is also a matter of wisdom.
Every time I see an eagle dropping its little eagle from a cliff, I always admire the eagle mother's wisdom. If she hadn't been ruthless, the little eagle might never have learned to fly.
So please let go and love, only when you let go, can your children go further and be more determined.
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