In Relationships (Between Couples), These 4 Things Shouldn't Be Said Often – Saying One Causes Pain
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As the saying goes, 'Words of comfort in winter, harsh words in summer.' Often, a comforting and understanding word can provide great solace, courage, and warmth, even in the coldest of times. Conversely, hurtful words can be like a sharp sword, deeply wounding the soul, even in the warmth of summer.
When two people are together, they will encounter many things. Some things may have been forgotten, but
The other person's saying that hurt you feels like a thorn, deeply embedded in your heart.Between husband and wife, or couples, these 4 things should not be said frequently, saying once causes pain once.Don't casually talk about breaking up or divorce.
Remember when I lived with my cousin, one day my cousin was very angry and said, 'The couple downstairs is like a mentally ill patient, arguing and divorcing every day. They've been fighting for so long and haven't divorced, what's the point of arguing all the time?'I remember this sentence, and after I got married, I also had some arguments with my wife. But we made a promise, no matter how we argued, we wouldn't say 'divorce.' At first, my wife would say this when she was angry, but after I scolded her a few times, she stopped. The purpose of marriage is not to divorce, so why would we need to do that?
This situation also happened to my stepmother. That year, they got married and came to my house to play. From the beginning, they said, 'Won't we divorce?' Of course, this was just a joke.
During their two-hour visit, I counted, my stepmother said this divorce five times. I couldn't stand it, so I said seriously, 'Divorce is not something you can say casually.' Psychology has an explanation called
mutual suggestionrepeating and repeating is a powerful suggestionPeople who often say they want to divorce will only find one way to solve the problem – divorce. This limits their thinking, and many couples don't realize that small things can cause dissatisfaction, and they keep saying this until they actually divorce.
Don't often criticize the other person's family.
People have double standards because of self-protection instincts. Even though you are now a new family with two people, their family and themselves are still one entity.When you criticize their family, it's essentially attacking them. When two people are together, many conflicts aren't about emotional problems, but about the other person's family's words and actions that are hard to accept.
If you have grievances and dissatisfaction, you can express them appropriately, but you shouldn't constantly criticize the other person's family. The best way is to let them express themselves. But when you say it, the feelings will be different.
Don't constantly say hurtful things that might cause strong displeasure or unintentional injury.
Don't directly criticize the other person as 'stupid' or 'foolish'.Sometimes, what we want to express isn't immediately understood by the other person. We might get angry and say, 'How stupid you are, how foolish you are, like a pig.' But these hurtful words can wound their self-esteem. This is where arguments often start. Even if they don't respond, they're still unhappy.
Don't talk about doubting the other person's words.You've been hurt by certain words, and what you can't accept the most is which sentence?
Don't live in the eyes of others and your own emotions, let it drive you crazy – it's not others' fault.
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