I've always admired Bai Yunsong, not only because of his professional ability in the media industry, but also because of his attitude towards marriage and life.The book 'Bai Shuo' records many of his speeches and views, which are fair and objective, and also thought-provoking.I really like one of the sentences in it: 'Men who look at the distance will attract those nearby; if you only look at those nearby women, women will look at the distance.' ”Men looking at the distance are working hard for their future lives, striving to build a good future for their families. Men looking at nearby women are driven by a desire for control, and also a reflection of a lack of ambition.Marriage is a blend of daily routines and seasonings, it's also a chaotic accumulation of trivial matters. If the man around you is immersed in emotional temptations, doesn't consider the future of both, then whether it's a man or a woman, no one dares to put their future in his hands.Before marriage, such men can't hold back women.After marriage, such men can't make women happy.
When a man doesn't strive for self-improvement in marriage, he's essentially putting all the burdens on one woman. Initially, she might tolerate it because of love. But over time, she feels increasingly hopeless and exhausted.For men in marriage, personal ambition is crucial, it not only relates to their own development, but also the direction of the marriage.For women in marriage, a man's ambition is her material satisfaction and the happiness of her marriage. She won't fail to weigh this aspect.Often, a man's level of ambition in marriage is the happiness of the marriage. So any woman will choose to look at the forward-looking person.
One: Lazy men are most easily taken advantage ofThose who don't want to work hard are also greedy. They don't want to rush forward, but they don't mind letting women stand in front of them, and compete with them in business.Recently, the popular drama 'Perfect Relationship' has a person like this.He is Stefan's ex-husband— is a typical lazy man. He enjoys the benefits of his wife's earnings, brazenly uses his wife's resources to develop business, and shamelessly asks Stefan and his boss for a meal to get a promotion.Compared to Stefan's current success and social status, looks even more backward.He himself is clear about this, but he doesn't want to work hard, and he's used to enjoying the fruits of his success. Otherwise, he wouldn't still be stuck in a junior position in the company in middle age.Such men are simply skilled at taking advantage of their wives, and eat soft food to the fullest. They spend their wives' money, and also complain that their wives don't take care of the house, even to the point of letting their wives shoulder all the burdens of the home.If they betray their wives, they'll blame the women.
To go forward is the instinct of most people. When a person stops moving forward, wanting to be empty-handed, they will inevitably become a soft eater.A man can be weaker than his wife, but he can't degenerate into laziness because of his wife's strength, and he can't consider everything to be his own right.Every woman wants to be a treasure in her husband's palm, of course, she won't mind accompanying her husband on equal footing, and working together to achieve the future. They can tolerate the trivialities of everyday life, and can also work hard to provide for their families and take care of the home, but they cannot accept living with a lazy husband.A man's lack of ambition shows laziness in work and life, and ultimately leads to a lack of responsibility in the marriage relationship.
Without a sense of responsibility, it not only loses respect for marriage, but also loses the ability to maintain the marriage.A long-lasting marriage requires not only basic material satisfaction, but also spiritual and emotional nourishment. And these two are absent for men who don't strive for self-improvement.They are good at taking advantage of their wives in work, and their wages will always be at the bottom. They push all the tasks to their wives, and if the wives complain, they blame the wives.There are six out of ten divorces are caused by men's behavior. Truly, when a person doesn't strive for progress, he will eventually fall behind.Conversely, as long as a man is committed to moving forward, even if he can't provide a prosperous life for his wife now, there are many women who will fall in love with him.
One: Lazy men are most easily taken advantage ofThose who don't want to work hard are also greedy. They don't want to rush forward, but they don't mind letting women stand in front of them, and compete with them in business.Recently, the popular drama 'Perfect Relationship' has a person like this.He is Stefan's ex-husband— is a typical lazy man. He enjoys the benefits of his wife's earnings, brazenly uses his wife's resources to develop business, and shamelessly asks Stefan and his boss for a meal to get a promotion.Compared to Stefan's current success and social status, looks even more backward.He himself is clear about this, but he doesn't want to work hard, and he's used to enjoying the fruits of his success. Otherwise, he wouldn't still be stuck in a junior position in the company in middle age.Such men are simply skilled at taking advantage of their wives, and eat soft food to the fullest. They spend their wives' money, and also complain that their wives don't take care of the house, even to the point of letting their wives shoulder all the burdens of the home.
If they betray their wives, they'll blame the women.To go forward is the instinct of most people. When a person stops moving forward, wanting to be empty-handed, they will inevitably become a soft eater.A man can be weaker than his wife, but he can't degenerate into laziness because of his wife's strength, and he can't consider everything to be his own right. Every woman wants to be a treasure in her husband's palm, of course, she won't mind accompanying her husband on equal footing, and working together to achieve the future.One: Lazy men are most easily taken advantage ofThose who don't want to work hard are also greedy. They don't want to rush forward, but they don't mind letting women stand in front of them, and compete with them in business.
Recently, the popular drama 'Perfect Relationship' has a person like this.He is Stefan's ex-husband— is a typical lazy man. He enjoys the benefits of his wife's earnings, brazenly uses his wife's resources to develop business, and shamelessly asks Stefan and his boss for a meal to get a promotion.Compared to Stefan's current success and social status, looks even more backward. He himself is clear about this, but he doesn't want to work hard, and he's used to enjoying the fruits of his success. Otherwise, he wouldn't still be stuck in a junior position in the company in middle age.Such men are simply skilled at taking advantage of their wives, and eat soft food to the fullest.They spend their wives' money, and also complain that their wives don't take care of the house, even to the point of letting their wives shoulder all the burdens of the home.If they betray their wives, they'll blame the women. To go forward is the instinct of most people. When a person stops moving forward, wanting to be empty-handed, they will inevitably become a soft eater.A man can be weaker than his wife, but he can't degenerate into laziness because of his wife's strength, and he can't consider everything to be his own right.
