I Just Feel Like I'm Not Good At Anything
The happiest thing about 2020 was that a friend told me she had finally found 'herself',Back in late 19, she was still telling me that she had been nervously facing the world, not believing she deserved to be liked, and didn't think she had any good qualities.
Actually, I've met many like her.
They might have just emerged from a bad relationship, or be in a constant state of denial, or perhaps never had the experience of 'I am worthy'.
Many people call this 'low self-esteem,' but I think they're just 'advantages waiting to be discovered',
They are:
① easily trapped in 'harming themselves' relationships;
Self-evaluation is too low, which will make them easily seek familiar relationship patterns.
Although those modes of interaction might hurt them, they also give them a sense of security.
②feeling 'unworthy,' unable to see their own value;
Lack of boundaries in intimate relationships will make them only see their own shortcomings.
Even when they are the ones who are being harmed, they often feel 'unworthy' and overcompensate the other person.
③easily feeling 'targeted,' 'unrecognized,' or 'lucky'.
Every advantage waiting to be discovered can make themselves more 'like themselves' through effort,
① building closer connections with people who like you;
It's not easy to distinguish what real love is, but it's relatively simple to tell if someone is constantly attacking you, criticizing you, or even hurting you.
Choose friends who are 'good supporters',They can see your strengths and make you feel loved and supported.
If you can't find them in life and these feelings of being belittled and low self-esteem have affected your normal life, you must seek professional help,
②'hints' are often very useful;
'I really am a good person'
'That's a good thing you did'
'I don't want you to think I think I am'
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Don't you notice that people who always show 'they can't do anything' often have many negative self-suggestions,
They often make bad assumptions about things before they happen, even if the best results occur, they still fear something worse.
Learn to 'suggest' to yourself, small things like peeling an eggshell perfectly, big things like completing a plan, any thing you learn to affirm yourself, is the beginning of loving yourself,Many people say, 'I feel like I'm not good at anything',But they didn't realize that seeing the first person greet you when you wake up in the morning is a good start.
Appreciating yourself is not an impossible thing, as long as you start to try,You will find, wow, you are really good!
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