Longing to Embrace You in an Ordinary Life! Reflections on Mr. Fan’s Song (90s Generation Net Singer)
There are many things in this world, you don't bring them with you when you're born, and you don't take them with you when you die.
You can only take yourself and your temper with you. You once had the most beautiful love, you've heard the most beautiful melodies, you've touched the loneliness of a solitary person, and you've seen the most beautiful scenery.
I stumbled and rushed towards you, and you couldn't leave alone. We said together, 'No matter what, we'll experience it together, and grow old peacefully and quietly.'
We frantically embrace to ward off loneliness, and helplessness is our inevitable ending.
'How much I wish to embrace you in an ordinary life' – Mr. Fan's song. Many people have probably heard it. The lyrics tell of a life, coming bare and going bare, born without bringing, and died without taking.
Today, a colleague said her old friend told her that when she was in love at 22, (he is 22 now, and finally had his first girlfriend that day, when he returned from the date, he was as excited as a child, saying 'Wow, girls' bodies are so soft, it's comfortable to hug.' His eyes were shining bright.
When we were young, we thought hugging was a common thing. The elders always gave us a sense of security with their big and warm hugs, letting us know they loved us. As we grew up, when we saw cute children, we wanted to give them a hug to express our love and care. When they showed their true, radiant smiles, our hearts would instantly sweeten.
When we were young, we longed to grow up, leave our parents' arms, and eagerly wanted to be independent and prove ourselves. But when we really grew up, it seemed hard, but secretly, we longed for more understanding and warm embraces. We missed those embraces we wanted to leave behind, and we wanted more understanding and care.
One year, I liked a girl, and I often found excuses to wander around her office just to secretly look at her. Although I did that, I didn't take any offensive actions.
Later, I left there, and I gradually started dating her, going to the movies, eating, and shopping. I hadn't refused her, so I officially started pursuing her. I don't remember how many times we went shopping, I accidentally bumped into her hand, and at that time I didn't hold her hand, I still didn't have the courage to hold her hand.
Until one time we went out together, she naturally put her hand on my arm, and I finally mustered the courage to hold her hand. We walked through the crowd holding hands like that. At that time, our happiness might only be understood by us. Unknowingly, that day passed. So much time has passed, I can never forget how happy I was when I held her hand.
Every subsequent date, her hand holding mine never loosened. We talked until late, we strolled from street to alley. We didn't buy anything, just wanted to be with the person we loved. I remember that day, we ended the date with an embrace, happiness came suddenly and simply. Perhaps that was the feeling of the 22-year-old boy, 'Wow, girls' bodies are so soft, it's comfortable to hug.'
During the time we were together, she did the most when I was lost and confused, angry and unwilling, and various bad emotions erupted. She didn't rush to ask me what happened, nor did she try to lecture me with the words of elders. Instead, she opened her arms and hugged me, and then patted my back slowly, until my emotions gradually calmed down. Later, we separated, but I still often thought of her embrace. Whenever I was unsuccessful and desperately longed for a warm embrace, I thought of her.
Holding hands, warmth; embracing, happiness; sweet vows; shared future dreams… beautiful, beautiful! But those unforgettable details were allowed to end a story without an ending, tightly held hands, sweet embraces, and promised futures… all faded into the past, becoming memories that were broken. What remained was fragmented memories.
Don't worry about being ridiculed, don't worry about being too vulnerable, throw off your defenses, and lean on that place that makes you feel safe.
Embrace the world, embrace the sun, embrace warmth, and entrust your softest parts to one embrace.
Little children need warm hugs. And we, grown-ups, also remember to turn back and give our parents a hug. Our elderly parents need us to protect them, they need us to take care of them. They may not need cold money, just a simple hug to express our love.
In fact, embracing is a silent language; embracing is emotional communication. A couple's embrace is sweet and happy; a husband and wife's embrace is understanding and tolerance; a friend's embrace is trust and closeness; after a quarrel, an embrace represents compromise and forgiveness; a parting embrace represents regret and anticipation. Let's embrace the world!
More than lengthy words of comfort, a silent embrace may be more effective in soothing people's hearts. I always think that embracing is more real and warm than kissing. I wonder if it's nice to lean on a warm chest – it must feel so reassuring, right? Shouldn't shoulders always feel strong (feeling like leaning on a shoulder – doesn't it make you feel safe?).
Don't worry about being seen as awkward, don't worry about being too fragile, throw off your defenses, and lean on that place that makes you feel safe.
Embrace the world, embrace the sun, embrace warmth, and entrust your softest parts to one embrace.
