Do Not Disturb Those in Low Spirits

Life is unpredictable, and people's lives are fleeting. Anyone can reach the pinnacle, but they can also accidentally fall into the depths.

As Lu You said in ‘Chance Encounters,’ ‘No matter who we are, we have all experienced our own darkest moments in life, which is a long, black, cold, and despairing tunnel.’

This tunnel is an unbearable valley and a test of life. There is no one around us to rely on, only ourselves.

To overcome it, we must strengthen our inner selves and save ourselves. Don’t disturb others easily, and don’t rely on others for support.

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When people are in a low period, human relationships are fragile.

Because of this uniqueness, there is no true empathy between people. We can only spend a lonely winter in the world.

Lin Nan failed the postgraduate entrance examination and worked in an undesirable job. Her relationship with her boyfriend was in crisis, and she was also in conflict with her roommate.

She would often complain to her colleagues in the office canteen, and they would simply dismissively tell her to ‘deal with it’.

Once, she heard her colleagues talking about her misfortune in the office canteen, and they would occasionally imitate her: ‘She’s so unlucky.’ ‘It’s a shame to happen to her.’

She realized that her heart-wrenching experiences were nothing but a story for others to talk about and laugh at.

In ‘My Blue Years,’ Annie Moore said, ‘Our hearts, our flesh, grow on each person’s own body. Sour, sweet, bitter, and then we taste it all ourselves.’

Don’t rely on others’ feelings, don’t ask others to understand your pain, shouting doesn’t help.

In ‘My Horan,’ Zhou Lijun, a former host of ‘Tonight 80 Aftershow,’ was once a popular star.

But he experienced one setback after another, and his wife cheated on him, transferring their marital assets, and his program was canceled due to fixed broadcast times.

His career and love all collapsed, and he was almost destitute.

He didn’t publicize his misfortune or give up, but quietly climbed out of the bottom, and finally returned to a new life.

He studied a lot of psychoanalytic literature, self-helped with what he learned, and received professional treatment. It took nearly two years to overcome the crisis.

He also found a new development direction and had a broader life.

Three Monkey wrote in ‘Give You a Horse,’ ‘When the heart is ready, it’s like crossing a thousand-mile-wide river, there’s no boatman to take you across, except for yourself. Only if you cross it yourself, will others be able to help.’

No one can save us from danger. The real savior is always ourselves.

Life is a lonely journey. Everyone has their own difficulties. Weak people go around telling their misfortunes, and strong people remain silent and grow.

Don’t surrender to life, walk alone through the long road; don’t surrender to fate, bite the bitter, there is no insurmountable abyss.