Speaking about human affairs invites trouble.
As the old saying goes: Don't talk about human affairs when meeting people, and you'll be a 'human matter'.
Control your mouth, say what should be said, don't say what shouldn't be said, and you'll avoid trouble and gain blessings.
I. Don't talk about the bad of others
In the internet age, the cost of spreading rumors is extremely low, so keyboard warriors are rampant.
They are eager to treat rumors and idle talk as conversation.
Shamelessly discussing other people's privacy, criticizing and judging others, and once they're unhappy, they start to slander.
Every time a person says something hurtful, they are creating a sin for themselves.
, the first-generation female star in China, was driven to suicide by taking sleeping pills because a small newspaper maliciously speculated on her private life, making public opinion uproar. Lu Xun wrote an article about it –
(Lùrén yán kě wě) – *On the Dread of Words*The tongue is a sharp axe that kills, and words are a knife that cuts the tongue. Leaving a good reputation is accumulating blessings for oneself.
II. Don't complain about life
Life is not easy, everyone is walking with a burden.
When others are biting their teeth, some people are always saying: Society is dark, and hard work is useless.
They grumble and complain, filled with a rotten smell.
After venting, everything returns to normal, with no intention of changing anything.
People who complain have no friends.
They complain about their own unhappiness and drag their friends into a sea of negative energy.
Lu Xun's Xianglinwa, after losing her son, would say 'I'm so stupid, so stupid…' At first, people would listen to her and comfort her, but later no one wanted to listen to her talk.
Life is bitter, and humans are oriented towards the sun. No one likes to hear negative energy.
Too much complaining, and being surrounded by negative energy for too long, will lead to a loss of confidence and vitality, and will affect life.
Bill Gates said: Life is unfair, get used to it, and never complain.
Everyone has moments of failure and setbacks, this is a part of life.
Not complaining is the correct attitude in life.
III. Don't boast about yourself
When Su Shi was young, he was outstanding in his studies and read the Four Books and Five Classics at a young age. So he pasted a couplet on the door of his study:
(Shíbiàn tiānxià zì, dújìn rénjiān shū) – 'Recognize all the characters in the world, read all the books of the human world'
His mother learned about it and turned over a book and asked him to teach him.
Young Su Shi was embarrassed because he hadn't seen the book.
When he returned, he changed the couplet to:
(Fāfèn shíbiàn tiānxià zì, lìzhì dújìn rénjiān shū) – 'Recognize all the characters in the world through effort, and read all the books of the human world through determination'
This change removed the original 'arrogance' and turned it into a direction of effort.Since then, Su Shi became more modest and worked diligently to learn characters and read books, eventually becoming a great poet and writer.
Others call praise 'reputation,' boasting is called 'praising oneself'
' (Tiān bù yán zì gāo, dì bù yán zì hòu) – 'Heaven doesn't speak of its arrogance, and the earth doesn't speak of its pride'
Truly knowledgeable and cultured people don't need to talk about themselves.Be humble, learn from others, and constantly improve yourself to become a better person.
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