The more you worry about someone, the less you should contact them.
Passionate feelings
It's all about maintaining contact
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Everyone has someone who cares about them, whether it's a friend, a family member, or a lover. Especially those who used to be able to say everything in their hearts, becoming the people they could talk about the most, even feeling like they could be together for a lifetime. But somehow, they gradually became less talkative, and the person they were most reluctant to bother.
Because of the fear of disturbing the other person, they began to become more cautious and didn't easily bother, even though they longed for the other person and had many things to say, they wouldn't frequently send a message.
So,Over time, the feelings would change because of this gradual decrease in unprompted contact. They became prone to quarrels, misunderstandings, and became the most familiar strangers.
Previously, it was believed that love could overcome the problem of distance. It was believed that even a thousand miles apart, people would have a spiritual connection and miss each other. Later, it was discovered that it was just one's own illusion.
In reality, people who once cared about each other will fade away due to reduced contact, perhaps because they overthought things, or because they lacked trust.
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Fan Fan is a considerate girl who always thinks about others, especially when it comes to her boyfriend's feelings.
Fan Fan and her boyfriend were in a long-distance relationship, but the distance wasn't that far, and they could see each other a few times each month.
Her boyfriend is an engineer, and he's often very busy, to the point where he doesn't even remember to eat.
At the beginning of their relationship, Fan Fan was very understanding of her boyfriend, taking care of his feelings and never bothering him. They had a passionate love period, and they would intuitively understand and miss each other.
But gradually,From expectations to disappointment, from care to quarrels, from caring to indifference. Fan Fan began to doubt this relationship.
Her boyfriend also started to avoid her because of misunderstandings, and sometimes felt that Fan Fan was making unreasonable demands, so he started to find excuses to evade her. But such consequences would only deepen the conflict.
In Fan Fan's eyes, sometimes all that was needed was a word of care or a comforting expression, even just an emoji of a hug. If this wasn't satisfied, she would start to doubt whether the relationship was wrong from the beginning, and whether it was the fault of 'not asking and not saying' that caused the irreconcilable mistakes.
Indeed, as everyone says, love between lovers is created through contact, and if there is no contact, the feelings will fade.
Without contact, there is less communication, and without communication, love will accumulate disappointment and misunderstandings that cannot be resolved.
This leads to 'misunderstanding' each other's feelings becoming an insurmountable obstacle. In fact, no matter how deep the feelings are or how much you care about someone, you need more contact and communication.
If you care, give more care, no one will refuse a warm gesture, and no one will not understand your love.
Besides,
Often, people can open up and talk about their feelings, which can quickly understand each other's situation and ideas, so as not to become misunderstandings of indifference and disregard, and also eliminate the feeling of being apprehensive and insecure.
So, if you care about someone, contact them more! Listen to their thoughts, connect with each other's feelings, and make contact a habit, let feelings become a way to overcome time and distance!
