Author: June · Host: Jimmy
Source: Insight (ID: DJ00123987)
Three Mu said: ‘Dream of the Red Chamber’ is a life-long book to read. At different stages of life, reading ‘Dream of the Red Chamber’ can bring different insights.When young, reading ‘Dream of the Red Chamber’ only thought it was a commonplace saying, but now I understand that every word in those couplets is a life lesson. False is true, true is false, false can become true?
What is true is true, what is false is false, can false become true?
What is real is real, what is not is not, can nothing come from nothing? Later, entering society and experiencing the world, I realized that some people use false to make it true, and true to make it false.And some people use something to become nothing, and nothing to become something. This is deceiving and misleading. I remember a writer said:Ordinary people can't see the truth and falsehood, people follow the crowd, spread rumors. Smart people can see the truth and falsehood, but they don't say it, giving others a chance. The world is full of truth and falsehood, seeing through it or not depends on whether you understand people. Knowing people is not about judging people, it's a wise way of dealing with things. Behind has surplus, don't shrink hand In front has no road, want to turn back Jia Rumu went to the wilderness for a picnic and saw this couplet—Zhitong Temple, with couplets on the gate: ‘Behind has surplus, don't shrink hand, in front has no road, want to turn back.’
Jia Rumu thought: ‘These couplets are simple, but their meaning is deep.’
The meaning is very clear, accumulating wealth for the next life, but still greedy, unwilling to stop, when there is no way to turn back, it's too late.For example, Wang Xifeng, born into a noble and wealthy Wang family, married to the prosperous Jia family and became the head of the household, with wealth and power, enjoying a life of luxury, but she was still greedy and desperately accumulating wealth. Wang Xifeng used the money from the temple to engage in high-interest lending, earning thousands of taels in a year. Since she controlled the iron temple, Wang Xifeng became even more reckless, using Jia Lian's name to handle lawsuits and accept bribes. So Li Wan said, ‘Wang Xifeng meticulously calculates everything, scheming to ruin Wang Xifeng’s fate.’Too much scheming is counterproductive, leading to Wang Xifeng's downfall. Behind has surplus, don't shrink hand, in front has no road, want to turn back. This couplet warns Wang Xifeng and serves as a warning to everyone, ‘Greed is the abyss, it's better to stop in time.’ ‘The world knows that gods are good, only gold cannot forget. From dawn to dusk, regretting not enough, until there is enough, then eyes close.’Life is not inherently miserable, it is the excessive greed that makes it so. Not striving, not comparing, avoid the temptation of desires, contentment is happiness.Spring sorrow, autumn grief, all self-induced Flower beauty and charm, for whom to be beautiful Happiness, anger, sorrow and joy are not about external things, they are all self-created.
Your attitude determines the scenery you see.
Lin Daiyu and Shixiongyun have similar backgrounds, both lost their parents and lived as orphans, relying on others for support, they have very different personalities.Lin Daiyu is sensitive and pessimistic.Baoyu smashing jade, she cried and wiped her tears: ‘If I break the jade, it’s entirely my fault.’When the peach blossoms fall, she grieves deeply, writing the ‘Plucking Peach’ poem.Zhou Rui’s giving the peach to Daiyu, she was finally given it, and she coldly said: ‘I knew it, others don’t pick the best for me, I’m just a fake Qing height, the most annoying.’She often became upset by others' words and cried, writing poems to express her sadness.Lin Daiyu's body is weak, and after a long time, she became even weaker.Shixiongyun once said to Lin Daiyu: ‘I am as sad as you, I’m not as narrow-minded as you.’ ”
Shixiongyun is cheerful and optimistic, seeing everything with a positive attitude.She drank a lot of alcohol, got drunk and fell asleep on the stone slab. She ate a lot of meat, Lin Daiyu teased her, ‘You are a young man, don’t be fake and tall, let’s have a good time.’, Lin Daiyu watched her roll her eyes and laughed.She sewed, played cards, guessed the numbers, and pretended to be a young man, creating a lively atmosphere.Optimistic people like the sun, shining wherever they go.Pessimistic people like the moon, with different phases of the moon.The key to happiness is in your own hands, a mature mind can not only be happy yourself but also infect more lives with happiness and joy. The world is bright, human relations is artKnowing people is also literatureWhen Jia Bao watched these couplets in the Ningfu chamber, he was not happy and quickly waved his hand to leave.When young, he thought like Jia Bao, seeing these couplets as commonplace.Now I understand that human relations is a lifelong study.Doing business is a lifelong art. As Liang Qichao said: ‘If you can’t become a person, your knowledge is the more bad it is.’ It’s not about arguing about people’s lives, it’s about learning throughout life.
