Truly Powerful People Will Always ‘Look Light on Themselves’

In 'Fly Over Birds' it is written: 'Life is like the flamboyant splendor of summer flowers, and death is like the quiet beauty of autumn leaves.' How many people yearn for this? Life is like this, when we are alive, live well, become ourselves, and in a hundred years, we will quietly age, and everything will disappear in smoke and ashes.

Life is a process, no matter what you get or lose, you will eventually lose it. What truly belongs to you is the state of mind when you are alive. When your heart feels happy and content, living a life full of gratitude, there's no point in coming to this world. When your heart is full of desires, you're always unhappy, even if you have a fortune, it's a wasted life.

Truly powerful people always 'look light on themselves.' If you value your position in the eyes of others too much, you'll be disappointed; if you love too deeply, you'll be disheartened; if you value family too much, you'll get tired; if you value career too much, you'll be impatient and greedy…

1. 'Looking light on oneself' in others' eyes.

Someone said: 'The biggest mistake a person can make is to overestimate their position in the eyes of others.' When you think you're important, you'll rely on others, always feeling that they'll help you. In fact, this society has more indifferent people and less warm-hearted ones. You'd turn to whom? You're likely to be disappointed.

Friend Xiao Jin invited six or seven friends to have hot pot together. They discussed what kind of hot pot to have. Some people suggested beef, some wanted lamb, and some wanted fish. They discussed for a long time without reaching a conclusion. Finally, everyone said, 'Let the host decide, Xiao Jin, you arrange.' Friend Liu, however, stubbornly said, 'Let's have a big fish, I said so.'

A little while later, the waiter brought a pot of lamb, which tasted very good, and everyone praised it. Only Liu and Xiao Jin were unhappy.

Liu and Xiao Jin were not only friends but also cousins. They had been very close, but this time, Liu overestimated himself, thinking Xiao Jin would certainly agree to his suggestion. As a result, Xiao Jin didn't agree. A small matter led to Liu being resentful.

Instead of thinking in a different way, if Liu had 'looked light on himself' and treated Xiao Jin as an ordinary friend, he wouldn't have been unhappy and wouldn't have been disappointed. He could accept Xiao Jin's arrangement.

Truly powerful people always look light on themselves, letting others define your worth. The more you look at your value, the more you're prone to disappointment.

2. 'Looking light on oneself' regarding past achievements, mistakes, sadness, and joy…

Truly powerful people let the past be the past, not dwelling on past mistakes or boasting about past glories. When you're stuck in the past, you're entangled with 'Chen Guzizha' and 'lanzhima'. It's a disgusting feeling when you reflect on it later.

During my school years, there was a speech competition held in the school. Everyone recommended me to participate because I was good at speaking, although my Mandarin was not standard, I had talent and eloquence. Therefore, I was very proud for a long time. On the day of the speech competition, as expected, I achieved third place. Because I got a prize, my roommates wanted me to treat them. I invited them to eat a big meal at a roadside stall near the school. Many people praised me, and I was very proud. I was immersed in achievements for a long time until I received my exam results, and I found out that I failed one subject. Then I realized that I had 'become arrogant.'

Because I got the prize, my roommates wanted me to treat them. I invited them to have a big meal at the school's roadside stall. When we were eating, many people praised me, and I was very proud. I was immersed in achievements for a long time until I received my exam results, and I realized that I had 'become arrogant.'

The past achievements are due to the past, what's worth boasting about? Past sadness and joy have already passed, what's worth lingering on? The best life is to live in the present, not to live in the past. Do well in the present, cherish the beautiful things in the past, forget the pain of the past, and your heart will be relaxed and you'll live more authentically.

3. 'Looking light on oneself' regarding love, there are many ways, naturally.

Friend Xiao Jiu called me, almost crying, saying, 'He left me, what's the point of my life anymore…' I was worried about her having suicidal thoughts, so I told her, 'He's left you, that proves he wasn't worthy of you; he's left you because he didn't cherish you and wasn't kind; you'll only meet someone truly worthy of loving in your lifetime.' I explained for a long time, and Xiao Jiu's mood calmed down.

Many people lose themselves because of love, treating love as their entire life. Loving someone wholeheartedly is not wrong, but when they turn away, you need to let go. Only then can you be a truly powerful person. Love is sometimes a whirlpool that makes people unable to get out. Only those who escape from the whirlpool can have a 'rebirth'

Truly powerful people 'look light on themselves' regarding love, treating love as one part of their lives, not the whole thing. A good love can help a person rise, even if it's difficult and painful, because you have someone to accompany you. A bad love can destroy a person, turning a happy life into a painful swamp. Only by letting it go naturally, appreciating those around you, and letting go of people, will your life be more free, and you'll have a clearer path.

4. 'Looking light on oneself' regarding the future, let it go.

I like these lyrics: 'I know my future is not a dream. I'm working hard every minute. My future is not a dream, my heart follows hope.' If you hesitate, your future will always be an unreachable dream. Let's go, the future belongs to you; let's go, don't let hardship be a mountain.

Many people look at the future and see only hardship. For example, if it's going to rain tomorrow, they don't want to go to work, fearing accidents; because something didn't go well, they lose confidence, and they don't want to do anything. How many people are like this, watching others succeed while they don't dare to take a step. It's better to look light on yourself.

People should understand that life is a process, you don't need to make yourself so important. If the Earth disappears, it will still turn. The sun will still rise from the east tomorrow. Don't take your life too seriously. Go out every morning with the sun, and live your life with a good attitude. A good mindset leads to a good life.

Mindset determines destiny. A truly powerful person isn't necessarily successful in business or rich, but has a good mindset.

Author: Plain Clothes Eater.

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