The saying goes, "Trouble comes from speech, illness comes from entering through the mouth." In life, a child learns to speak at two years old, and learns to shut their mouth for a lifetime. If a person speaks carelessly and without consideration for others, they are sure to bring unnecessary trouble and misfortune upon themselves. Especially the following three types of words, it's best to keep them bottled up!

01 Mocking others' words

A man is not a saint, so everyone has their flaws. If we only look at the shortcomings of others, we are like finding a bone in an egg. Everyone will become an object of our ridicule. Mocking others may provide a moment's satisfaction, but it's built on the pain of others, and we will become an enemy of everyone, no one likes to be friends with such a person, and our reputation will get worse, and we will have no place in society.

Therefore, we must learn to accept and tolerate others, focus on others' strengths, and not focus on their weaknesses. No matter how capable you are or how skilled you are, you should not ridicule those who are not as good as you. Regardless of whether someone is stronger or weaker than you, we should treat them with respect. As the saying goes, "Thirty years of east river, thirty years of west river," perhaps one day they will surpass you, or perhaps you will have bad luck.

02 Gossiping and spreading rumors

In this life, we must control our mouths and not spread rumors and gossip. There is no wall that cannot be penetrated, and if you speak badly about others behind their backs, it will eventually reach the ears of the people involved. It's better to say something unpleasant face-to-face, and most people can accept it. But if you spread rumors about others behind their backs, it's equivalent to harming others, and it's likely to create hatred between people.

During leisure time, we often talk about others' affairs and rarely talk about our own affairs. This is a waste of time and will bury the roots of trouble for ourselves. The speaker may not intend to, but the listener may have their own thoughts, and the words we speak casually may inadvertently offend someone, and then others will spread it further, leading to our misfortune.

Therefore, the ancients warned us to "Sit quietly and think about our own affairs, do not idle talk about others' misfortunes." The affairs of others have little to do with us, and we often only see the surface phenomena, so we should avoid making judgments hastily. If we have time, we should reflect on our own mistakes and shortcomings, improve our moral character, and this is the right thing to do.

03 Bragging about oneself

The ancients have already warned us: "Accumulated losses, benefited from humility." We should be modest in our conduct and humble in our character, but it's difficult for us to do so. Whenever we're a little proud, we can't help but boast about it.

For example, when a child gets first place on an exam, or wins a competition, or develops a special talent, many parents like to show it off, believing it's a matter of face. But this is actually not beneficial. It not only harms the child but also harms the parents, raising children is not for showing off to others, but to improve their abilities and character. Bragging about our children will make them arrogant and vain, and they will be unable to bear any setbacks, and they will not have a bright future, just like the story of Zhang Zhongjing in Wang Anshi's 'Zhang Zhongjing'?

If you constantly boast about yourself, you may receive praise from others, but you will often attract jealousy and resentment, and the higher you stand, the more likely you are to fall, so we must learn to restrain ourselves and not be too showy, in order to live a stable and peaceful life.