Why Do People Need Friends? This is the Most Authentic Answer I Have Ever Heard
People's Daily
A netizen once said that several years ago, his father was diagnosed with a serious illness and required a large amount of medical expenses. He considered asking relatives and colleagues for money, but in the end, none of them dared to open their mouths, fearing they wouldn’t get it and worried about losing face.
Just when he was at his wit’s end, a good friend unexpectedly brought him 100,000 yuan. At that moment, his inner gratitude was beyond words.
Another netizen said that whenever she and her husband had arguments, to avoid worrying her family and children, she would turn to her best friend.
The two were of similar age and had shared similar growth experiences, so they comforted and encouraged each other, reducing many worries and anxieties.
It is said that misfortune is commonplace in life, but there are few people who can talk about it. Some things said to outsiders are not understood and may be ridiculed. Some matters, if known by certain people, may not only be useless but also create more trouble.
A writer once told me that whenever she finished reading a book, wrote an article, or had new insights and understandings, the most pleasant thing was to share it with her best friend. Because her friend could read her thoughts from the words, and also appreciate them. She said, it feels good to be understood.
‘Wine meets a bosom friend, poetry meets a person to sing.’ Being with someone who understands you, you don’t need to explain yourself, because you are kindred spirits and naturally feel a sense of connection.
I still remember what Su Shi wrote: ‘On the night of the twelfth day of the tenth month of the Yuanfeng year, when I was about to sleep, the moonlight entered my room, so I got up readily. I thought there was no one to share with, so I went to Chengtian Temple to find Zhang Huaimin. Huaimin was still awake, and we walked together in the courtyard. The courtyard was like a flooded area, with a clear sky, algae and bamboo shoots crisscrossed, casting shadows of bamboo and pine. What a beautiful night with the moon and such scenery! Who needs to be alone when there’s the moon? Where are the bamboo and pine trees? It’s just for a few idle people like us.’
Perhaps we know many people, but there are few who can confide in.
The moonlight is always there, the scenery is always there, but confidantes are not always easy to find.
Many times, we need friends to be able to find someone who can understand our joys and sorrows, our moods and personalities, and find a sense of resonance.
One person’s happiness is even happier when shared with a friend; one person’s pain, when understood by a friend, can still make a person feel relaxed and relieved.
We all need one or two close confidantes in our lives. It’s hard to imagine what a lonely life it would be if a person didn’t have friends.
Friends, sometimes are our armor, providing the most timely help when we need it most;
Friends, sometimes are also our soft spot, when we feel wronged and in pain, we can bravely put everything down in front of them;
Friends, sometimes are also a kind of family-like existence, mutual affection and righteousness, mutual support and hardship, and bravely share our hearts.
There's a question on the internet: Why do people need friends? A very insightful answer is:
‘Because a person needs a loophole to be able to unreservedly pour out secrets, release pressure, and not worry about disturbing the other person or the other person being impatient. People can’t maintain a tense state for 24 hours, they always need a place to take a break, and this place is a close friend.’
So, learn to cherish these precious friendships.
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