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Author: Wandu Wanqing (Wandu Wanqing)

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A reader complained to me that her identity as a housewife was constantly mocked by others.

Once, she was invited to participate in a women's event organized by a friend. Many women attended, dressed appropriately and with refined features.

She also dressed impeccably and radiated vitality.

Before the opening, everyone gathered together, friendly and enthusiastic, exchanging compliments and admiration.

Many people added her WeChat and asked for her phone number. The atmosphere was lively and warm.

It felt like everyone wanted to become her sister immediately.

Her nearest female friends were beautiful, fashionable, carried designer bags and jewelry, and appeared to be much younger than her. They called her 'sister' and excitedly chatted about plans for beauty treatments and spa days.

However, they quickly changed their minds.

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After the opening, it was the introduction session.

Many people had impressive backgrounds, some were senior executives, some ran companies, and some operated small shops.

It was her turn to introduce herself.

She frankly admitted that she hadn't worked in a formal job and was a senior housewife, dedicating her time to housework and raising her children.

As she spoke, several women in the audience pointed and whispered, expressing surprise.

The people who had originally invited her to the beauty treatment and spa days also looked at her with scrutiny.

She returned to her seat, and while everyone pretended to be polite, their eyes held a certain meaning.

The woman who had initially invited her to the beauty treatment and spa days finally couldn't help but ask, 'Sister, you have such a great aura and are so beautiful, we thought you were a senior executive or a company owner/wealthy wife. How could you be a housewife? This… this… really…'

They later found excuses to cancel the beauty treatment appointment.

She and the other women briefly explained their situation as a housewife, feeling that things were good as they were.

But everyone remained unconvinced.

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Later, she also overheard other whispers and criticisms.

There was a lot of disdain, it was quite strange. It seemed she couldn't fit into this kind of occasion.

In their eyes, a housewife represented a bad family background, low education, unremarkable status, lack of independent spirit, and a low-status marriage. It represented a humble and insignificant role.

It even represented a lack of self-awareness.

She said, 'That day, I felt very wronged, but this isn't the first time someone mocked me for being a housewife.'

She was once teased by her university classmates for staying home and doing laundry.

She was criticized by her in-laws for not earning money and being unable to help her husband with his business.

Whenever she met them, they would look down on her.

Once, while having coffee at a café, a bystander criticized a housewife, saying… and so on. It was all filled with contempt.

If it weren't for the fact that she was a stranger, she would have thought they were talking about herself.

Even once, she posted a photo of herself cooking on her social media, and someone commented, 'A cleaner shouldn't be so proud.'

She immediately blocked that person.

Sometimes, she couldn't help but ask herself: 'Am I really a cleaner? Am I so terrible? Is being a housewife so bad?'

She felt that people's perspectives were sometimes too harsh.

The way people mocked was also quite peculiar.

She told me that she wasn't the only one. There were also several full-time mothers who felt the same way.

Sometimes, even her husband would tease her and look down on her.

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Don't look down on them. They are living in this world no less than anyone else. They don't have to be lower than anyone else. They don't have to be mediocre or insignificant. They don't have to be always asking for favors.

Instead, they should be respected and appreciated.

The most important thing is to be genuine and sincere.

Don't assume that because someone stays at home and does housework, they are not capable or hardworking. They are not always asking for favors and living a low-level life.

It's not about who is more glamorous or sophisticated, but rather whether someone can wholeheartedly devote themselves to a task and achieve results.

It's not about comparing identities, but about understanding and accepting each other's choices.

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For example, my close friend is an amazing full-time mother.

She manages her home with meticulous care, everything is clean and tidy, and she takes good care of her children, making them healthy and intelligent.

She is a senior housekeeper for her family, a professional financial manager, a best assistant to her husband, and a wonderful mother for her children, providing them with nutrition, education, and psychological guidance.

She is also a social expert, managing relationships between teachers, classmates, and parents, serving as her children's game companion and tutor.

She also cultivated her self-discipline and control, taking care of her family, her marriage, her life, and herself in a diversified and colorful way.

You can't say that these things aren't work. A housewife's work is no less than any profession. It's just that she's done it at home and in a family setting.

Can you say that these things aren't valuable? Can you say that housewives are simply asking for favors and living a low-level life?

It's not about who is higher or lower, but about whether someone can dedicate themselves to a task and achieve results. It's about understanding and appreciating each other's choices.

In short, housewives are not just asking for favors, they are a woman's effort to support her family. They are one person supporting many roles.

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Therefore, those who mock housewives, especially those who look down on full-time mothers, wake up! You don't need to look down on them.

Because women shouldn't be judged by their choices. It doesn't matter if they are glamorous or not, it doesn't matter if they are successful or not, as long as they are sincere and dedicated to their work.

It's not about comparing identities, but about understanding and accepting each other's choices.

It's not about who is more glamorous or sophisticated, but rather whether someone can wholeheartedly devote themselves to a task and achieve results. It's not about judging someone's life based on their profession or family status. It's about understanding and appreciating each other's choices.

Ultimately, everyone is equal in this world. It doesn't matter who lives a more glorious or more ordinary life. What matters is whether someone can strive to achieve their goals and live a fulfilling life.

Wandu Wanqing, an emotional writer, your emotional best friend, specializing in unraveling complex human nature, published her best-selling book 'Understand, it's the most beautiful phrase in this world.' Thank you for reading, and we look forward to your attention.

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