When we interact with others, we often encounter a very real thing, that is human nature. Why is human nature so real? Because in society, human nature is not one-sided.

Karen Honey says: 'On the one hand, it wants to rule all people, and on the other hand, it wants to be loved by everyone; on the one hand, it obeys others, and on the other hand, it imposes its own will on them; on the one hand, it isolates others, and on the other hand, it craves their love. This completely unsolvable conflict controls our lives.'

It can be seen that this very contradictory inner world is what we call human nature. As the saying goes: 'Knowing people and faces, not knowing hearts.' Everyone will have countless faces, and when you want to test the dark side of a person, you may lose more beautiful things.

Therefore, for human nature, we should understand more and less examine. Because understanding, we have a certain understanding, and make ourselves more thoughtful, and less examine, is a way of dealing with people, reduce our losses. Therefore, for the following three things, unless absolutely necessary, it is better to avoid mentioning or showing them in public.

One, mention your current downturn.

Old Li had a deep understanding of this. Before, Old Li had many acquaintances, and often gathered with brothers and friends, which was very happy. But at that time, Old Li didn't know that these so-called 'brothers' looked so good on the surface.

It is said that Old Li was unemployed for a period of time, so he organized a dinner party to invite several brothers to help him find a way out. However, Old Li also invited them, and paid the money, but in the end he only got a very perfunctory reply: 'I'll think about it.' After this incident, Old Li couldn't contact them for a long time.

Adele said: 'Everyone has a certain degree of self-esteem, because we all want to be better and live a better life.'

When you are in a downturn, you actually see more dark sides of human nature. For most people, they value interests and a better face of you. And when you mention something bad about yourself, they will be less enthusiastic, and the less they are.

So, when you are in a downturn, don't mention it too much, otherwise you will lose more. If it's helpful for your own development, it may not be worth it.

Two, mention borrowing money.

Xiao Zhou often maintained a relationship with a friend, and they were very compatible. Whenever they met, they would treat each other as brothers. But even the best relationships can be broken by money. Once Xiao Zhou urgently needed money, he planned to ask this friend for it. This friend immediately lent him the money.

But after the money was lent out, he hadn't returned it yet, and the friend reminded Xiao Zhou several times. Xiao Zhou said to him: 'I'm here, I won't run away, don't worry.' But the friend said: 'You can't say that. If you run away, where should I go to find you?'

Xiao Zhou heard this, and his heart sank. He didn't expect that after a long time of getting along, a simple request for money could cause trust problems. After this incident, Xiao Zhou and him broke up a lot.

As the saying goes: 'Talking about money hurts feelings.' This is not without reason. Because in society, money, as a factor connecting interpersonal relationships, is a key factor in terms of interests. Those who value interests will appear very 'selfish'. They think that holding money in their hands is more stable, so they are far away from the topic of borrowing money.

So, sometimes, don't overestimate the relationship in society. Because of interests, there are many intrigues. Most of the time, we don't realize it because their misleading words and actions cover it up.

So, when your ability is too strong, you should learn to restrain yourself. Don't regret it when you are plotted against. Because by then, they have already taken advantage of your rise.

Three, mention your unique abilities.

Xiao Wu had a new colleague who was worse than him in terms of ability. But Xiao Wu didn't pay attention to it, and often said in front of colleagues that he had special skills and could ask for help.

But to Xiao Wu's surprise, the colleague's ability improved significantly and he quickly kicked Xiao Wu out of the team, which greatly hurt him.

Cheng Qingfeng said: 'No one will willingly and happily be in a position where others help them, because being helped means being incapable, weak, and humble. People's inner desires are naturally striving for equality, even striving for excellence, when they are helped, this desire is hidden in the depths of their hearts and becomes hostile to those who help them.'

Ability is very important for our own development. We all know that for people with outstanding abilities, helping people with limited abilities is a reasonable thing. But for people with limited abilities, they will feel that your strong ability is a threat. When you are useless, they will use all means to pull you down. This is the real human nature.

In the end, it is inevitably entangled with interests. There are many intrigues in society because of interests. Most of the time, we don't realize it because their misleading words and actions cover it up.