Can Cats Also Cause Children to 'Have a Second Child' Jealousy?

Still start with our cat.

We have two cats at home, one is a white tabby, I picked it up from the side of the road when it was less than two months old, because it had two symmetrical cookie-like patterns on its mouth, so we named it 'Two Biscuits'

Two Biscuits is a very affectionate cat, and its temper is very good, it never yells at people or scratches people, if it wants to be close to you, it will jump on your belly or your legs, while using its head to rub against you, and emit a very gentle 'meow meow', you can tell it wants you to pat it, hug it, and love it

Two Biscuits is the cat I picked up, I am the one who usually feeds it cat food, cleans its poop, plays with it, and takes it for medical treatment, so it's like taking care of a child, whoever takes care of it the most will be close to it, Two Biscuits naturally also gets close to me

On the one hand, it's close to me, on the other hand, maybe it's because my belly is fleshy, so Two Biscuits feels that making a '' sound and sleeping on me is the best choice, so it often jumps on my belly

Two Biscuits is the most close to me

So far, Two Biscuits has grown from a small kitten into a handsome cat, but it still likes to make a '' sound and sleep on my belly… I don't know when it started, as long as I see Two Biscuits sleeping on my belly, whether it's making a '' sound or sleeping, my 9-year-old daughter 66 will be upset, as long as she sees it, she will immediately rush over to hug Two Biscuits, and take it to other places, sometimes a little forcefully throwing Two Biscuits away a very long distance (Fortunately, Two Biscuits is a cat, even if it's thrown away, it can skillfully land), After throwing Two Biscuits away, she will lie on my belly, imitating Two Biscuits' '' sound and sleeping

At first, I didn't pay much attention to it, until one day, 66 asked me when sleeping, 'Mom, don't you like me?'

I didn't know what to say

'Then why don't you often hug me and kiss me like before? You used to do this, but now you don't…' As she said this, she touched her heart, and she burst into tears…

I was a little flustered, 'Just now?'

'You often hug Two Biscuits! But you never hug me!' So she continued to cry

I realized that she was jealous of Two Biscuits! Then I thought about her actions – for example, as soon as she saw Two Biscuits on me, she would drive it away, then she would lie down and imitate it; and she also imitated Two Biscuits' actions in order to get my attention and affection. I didn't realize that we didn't have twins at home, but I actually experienced the feeling of a big brother and a little sister competing for attention!

I quickly explained, 'But Two Biscuits is just a cat!'

'You don't love me!' 66 cried even more sadly

I couldn't help but be bewildered

It seems that my explanation didn't even make her feel better

Originally, we thought that our home only had one child, so we didn't need to consider things like 'sibling rivalry' or 'jealousy of twins', but this time 66's 'complaint' made me realize this issue

It's normal for children to be jealous, especially when they feel insecure, if they know they are loved, they won't care so much

Besides, it's also normal for children to compete for attention

Think about it, I'm very pampering Two Biscuits, maybe because it's just a cute little cat, I won't have any expectations or requirements for it, as long as it eats and drinks and plays and makes a '' sound, okay? Sometimes I'll suddenly have a whim, I'll pick it up and play with it, hugging this fluffy little thing, it really makes me feel healed! Thinking about it, this is just like treating a baby, and when facing 66, who is a 9-year-old child, it's natural not to treat her as frequently as before, plus the fact that she was studying intensely for a while, so she was also relatively strict to her, it's no wonder 66 feels unbalanced psychologically… In fact, it's precisely because Two Biscuits is just a cat, which made me never think about 'jealousy of twins', so I ignored 66's feelings

Let's assume that Two Biscuits is really our second child, what would I do?

I would definitely start in the pregnancy period, and would tell 66, 'You might soon have a little brother or little sister, do you like him/her?'A loving 66 would definitely say 'I love him/her', but a delicate 66 would definitely worry, 'Will Mom and Dad still love me like before? Will I not be loved if I have a little brother or little sister?'I would reassure her, 'Mom and Dad will always love you!' Then I would embrace her and continue to say affectionately, 'In the future, you will be the big sister, you will be a role model for your younger siblings, and you can help Mom and Dad with their chores. When your younger siblings grow up, they will definitely admire you!' Children are children after all, they will be proud when they can help their parents, and they will feel that they are capable, of course, children are children after all, their emotions are unstable and fluctuating, so we need to be prepared to communicate with her and give her reassurance

As for the second child was born, Dad, Mom, and everyone in the family would be busy, but now, we must also take time to take care of the first child

Furthermore,

It's important to tell the first child that he/she is loved

Moreover,It's also important to give the first child a 'privilege', that is, he/she can have a special time with only Mom and Dad

Then, I would also praise the first child from time to time, 'Wow, 66 helps Mom and Dad change diapers for the younger siblings, and doesn't stink, that's great!' '66 can also make the younger siblings happy and make them smile, look, the younger siblings like you so much!' '66 is a good big sister, she's grown up, she's stronger than a little baby!'Finally, it's important to tell the first child that he/she is loved.

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