48-Year-Old Yu Fei Hong: Learning to Please Yourself is a Matter of a Lifetime
Today is the 2348th day that Jun Reader accompanies you on your lifelong growth journey.
Yu Fei Hong, who is known as 'the woman that contemporary women most want to be' has once said:
Independent and confident women will never rely on others for their satisfaction. Life is my own, and there's no need to seek happiness from others.
Ultimately, everyone needs to put all their hopes in themselves, master their own lives. Learn to love yourself, without needing to seek happiness from the outside.
Don't wait for others to make you happy, but be willing to put in the effort to please yourself.
It's a really important thing to be able to make yourself happy.
Doing this means we have the ability to take responsibility for our own lives, no matter what our circumstances are, we can find ways to find joy in life.
01
About Life
Niko: 'Take a bite of candy every day, and tell yourself that today is a sweet day.' The best way to make yourself happy is to still choose to love and embrace it after seeing the truth of life. Only when we learn to cherish ourselves and adjust ourselves, can we enjoy the surprises and touches that life gives us in various tests.
Niko: Life is full of small joys everywhere.
Niko: We may have many things we want to do, but we must make plans before doing them, so that our wishes can become things we can do.
02
About Growth
Niko: As in Jun Reader's lifelong growth dictionary entry '841: Family of Origin' says: The influence of family education and examples on a person's growth trajectory, physical and mental health, personality characteristics, cognitive level, emotional characteristics, values and how to get along with others are all extremely important.
Niko: We often judge our choices based on the reaction of others, whether they are good or bad. But the truly correct choices only need to consider our inner feelings. If your heart is firm, it's the best choice. Life is a journey that cannot be repeated. When we are old and gray, let's not regret 'not living our lives to the fullest.'
Niko: Jun Reader's lifelong growth dictionary entry '695: Problem Solving' tells us that problem-solving ability truly tests a person's ability. That is, a person's ability is often reflected in the difficulty, value, and number of problems they can solve.
03
Self-Reflection
Niko: Psychology has a Dunning-Kruger effect, which means: People with lower ability are more likely to overestimate their own abilities and have a strange sense of self-confidence. Those who truly have abilities don't boast about what they have. They don't tell others what books they've read, what cars they've driven, or where they've been. Because they don't have self-esteem.
Niko: In a micro-society, everyone is different, everyone is just themselves, so the abstract principles derived from an individual's experience are no longer replicable, we need to summarize our own experience and walk our own path.
Niko: 'Keep the light inside you, because you don't know who might need it to escape the darkness.'
Compiler: Niko, Jun Reader Creator.
